In my fifty plus years of life I have changed living quarters thirty-five times. That’s an impressive number, right? And imagine, these are only the ones that I remember. There
are a couple of them that I stayed in before such time as I started remembering things. For example, from my parents I have heard about the first house they moved into in Kasargod, which incidentally was right across the road from a movie hall (Yup, they watched all movies that made it there and on my arrival, I tagged along too) and was rented out by KonkaniAmma as they called the houseowner. I met the lady years later when father was once again posted to Kasargod. I still remember how she gushed over 14-year old me in Konkani accented Malayalam. When she had last seen me, I had been just a tiny toddler. Of course talk on the occasion inevitably veered towards how I used to stand on a box (Yes. That was a pre-requisite for the routine. We show-people are like that. We absolutely need a stage to perform. Yessir we do.), whenever I wanted to sing or someone asked me to, and dance to ‘Aaja re pardesi, mai to kab se khadi is paar...” a song from the film Madhumati. Sigh. That’s how early I started calling out to the pardesi to make his appearance. But the pardesi took his own
sweet time to get back to me.
Digressions apart, that had been the first house I moved to, from my ancestral house where I was born. There definitely were a couple more houses in between till we moved to the huge old lonely house in the middle of a coconut grove at Manjeshwar, which is the first one that memory gifts. That was where my sister bit me and hence a house I am unlikely to forget. Anyways that’s where I started counting till I reached thirty-five. This number includes one boarding school, two college hostels, not to mention the many government quarters that I stayed in before and after marriage, but not the holidays or time spent with the L & M in places where army allows family for only a few months a year.
The thirty-sixth move, now looming large and close, did not come easy. It had been fun initially, when it became known that we had to move (we stay in a rented house), especially the research part where you wade through ads. The “dedicated” (Oh wow, fancy that!) car-sheds, “virgin” (Don’t tell me we Indians are obsessed with virginity to this level, egad) apartments, the “attached’ (to what?) bedrooms all vied with one another to catch your attention. But all the vying came to nought at the first call one made. Each conversation initiated over the phone sort of ended in the following manner:
Dog?
Yes a dog.
Sorry, no dog.
Okay then. Thank you.
Click. End of conversation.
I have certain good old prejudices like everyone else I presume. I can never really trust people whose eyes don’t smile and I am wary of those who don’t like animals, especially dogs. They just don’t have a heart, the humans, not the dogs. As for a soul, you gotta be kidding me. Nope, they don’t have one, the humans not the dogs. Dogs are all soul.
Much to my chagrin I found that Trivandrumites are a soul-less lot, anti-dog to the last one of them, the house-owners that is. My opinion about them hit rock bottom with all the nays I got from even those who hadn’t said ‘No pets’ in their ads. Bah! People who loved their concrete homes more than dogs were not worth associating with. I wished I had a house of my own where I could let my pup roam free to scratch walls and doors and say ‘Tchah to you’ to such as them. But unfortunately I did not, so had to beg people to rent them out to me. Nope, I did not actually beg. Catch me begging, especially to soul-less dog-haters! Fat chance of that happening.
OMG, time is running out, I used to tell the L & M. He wasn’t being proactive enough
according to me. He was taking things coolly. In fact in the face of no-dog policy of the house-owners, what he suggested had been we give Luci up for adoption. Well, all hell did not break loose, but the sudden chill in the air told its own tale. He did not make the suggestion again. I am not fussy about houses, I am someone who’d adjust anywhere, nor am I averse to new locations. So I’d tell him, ‘Take this or that house, let’s move.’ But he being born and brought up in Trivandrum has affinity to certain areas and reluctance to move out of his comfort zone. I sighed, rolled my eyes, to no effect. ‘Will we ever get a house to our specifications?’ I asked him mournfully one day.
“Somewhere is a house waiting just for us,” he replied rather too optimistically, I felt. And all this while I would have sworn that I was the more optimistic one. Time was running out and I was prone to splurge on good old pessimism for a bit. But pessimism cannot have me for its own for long. I am a natural optimist; the one they say does not even see clouds, because she is walking on them. So back I went to being one, que sera sera and all that, you know. And just like the L & M said, the house meant for us came looking for us through an unexpected call from friends. They were about to rent out their house and had heard we were looking for one. . The best part is what they said when I expressed my misgivings to the Brigadier and wife, owners of the house, that Luci might dig up the tiny lawn in front of their house. They told me to quit worrying about it. Luci will outgrow all that soon, they pacified me. That is what I mean by dog-lovers having a soul.
I generally find that people go all teary-eyed, not wanting to leave the familiar behind. In fact
I have seen people beat their chest and lament because a blogging site has closed shop and they are forced to opt for a new one. Nothing of the sort for me. I relish moves. Once a decision has been made, it is like I cannot wait to leave. I am impatient and raring to go and set myself up at the new place, whether house or blog-site, it doesn’t matter. Most of the time (not always though) as luck would have it, I am helped along by circumstances (either created by living things or non-living things) that make me want to just get out as quickly as possible. This time it is a faulty electric line. I have been boiling in the humid weather since today morning with no power supply. All I want to do now is go to my new house and relax. Of course relaxing is a far way off. But you know what I mean.
So, if you don’t see me in the days to come, it will be due to either lack of time, or because I am not yet connected (God forbid!) to the net. Sigh. Who am I kidding? I will probably be peeping in every day. 😛
Note: The pics are all from the house I am leaving behind.
Good luck on the move Shail, to you, L&M & Luci! Are you going to be in and around TVM or moving anywhere closer to, say Palakkad or Trichur ;)..not that I am coming there anytime soon, still it will be a slight boost to my plan to come there and an eventual hope of seeing you 😀
In TVM, Deeps 🙂 May be we will meet on my next trip to the capital, whenever that may be 😛
I agree – those who dislike dogs have no soul! Actually there are two kinds. Those who simply have no experience with dogs and so either have no opinion of their own and pick up stuff from others, and those who live with dogs and still dislike them.
The first type…can’t really blame them. I don’t know how I would have felt about dogs had I never been exposed to them.
The second type…they truly have no soul! You can’t live with a dog for any period of time and not fall in love. Actually it’s not just dogs. Any animal with a personality. Maybe cats as well. But not an ant 😀
P.S I don’t know much about cats. I like them, but my exposure is not anywhere near that of doggies.
You know Bhagwad, when Disney or Pixar make movies, we somehow start liking all those animals that star in them 🙂
Welcome to Tvm! 🙂
Trivandrumites are a soul-less lot, anti-dog to the last one of them – wasn’t that a generalization?
Come to Palayam (during my next vacation), and I will show you a handful of dog-lovers… 🙂
Lol My connection with Trivandrum goes a very long way back, been staying here since ages. In fact I am practically a Trivandrumite myself. But thanks anyway for the welcome. 🙂
If you are familiar with my writings you’d know in what tone I have written the sentence you have quoted. And ‘generalization’? You gotta be kidding if you use that word in connection with me. 😉
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My dear Shail,I believe your blogs should be read aloud ( they have that kind of flow)…at least I am sometimes caught doing so.
My dog is 11 ( or maybe 12) years old.I have only had to move twice in that time and the dog disparagers were making me feel like I could never find a home for a 65 lb Rottweiler mix (” We allow dogs under 20lbs” was the phrase I heard over and over,as if little dogs are somehow less destructive than our larger sweethearts),until I saw the add that said,”We love dogs!” I will have to move again soon and face the “soul-less dog-haters” .I will have to take the L&M’s philosophy and believe that our house will be waiting for us. It has come to pass before,and always when I remember that succumbing to stress is never productive.
Good luck with the move.You must be an expert at packing by now.
Dear dear Sally. Thank you so very much 🙂 Aww… good luck to you. Hope you find another ‘We love dog!s’ ad soon 🙂 Yup, the L & M and I are experts (I have had more experience with my father also holding a transferable job) when it comes to packing. But we are not getting any younger, sigh.
Good luck with the move..so will you be still in Trivandrum or moving out?
Err…I do fall in the category of people who are really scared of dogs…I dont dislike them, I am just so scared of them 🙂
Is that last picture of paan ka patha ka creeper or is it money plant??
Not leaving TVM. Just moved from one locality to another. 🙂 Yeah I know about your dog-fear 🙂 Will lock Luci up when you come 😉
That’s paan ka patha 🙂
Shail. I love all the pics you have put up….the house, the garden, the plants, and last but not the least, Luci. We at home have a special affinity with dog lovers and have many commonalities with them. We do have similar lifestyles too. Dog lovers learn to let go and not be too particular about things.
All the best for your next move. Hope Luci loves the new place!
Dog-lovers do have the qualities that you speak of 🙂
Luci loves the new place, though we sort of had a tragedy soon after landing here. Will write about it.
I guess this house must have a distinction of “most number of bloggers you met here”!!
Not really Maddy. I met the same number of bloggers here as I did in the earlier house 🙂
An expert on moving strategies, you are. The world would not be worth a plug nickel, without the animals. Enjoyable post, thank you…
Indeed I am, rather we are, the L & M and I. 🙂 Thanks for dropping in. 🙂
Love the pics… will read the post now.
🙂
I also find it very difficult to understand how and why some people can dislike dogs. Most people who know and live with dogs and cats tend to love them like babies.
And by the way I have the same attitude towards moving 🙂 Enjoy your new house!! Share before and after pictures!!
Thank you. 🙂 Will share more pics.
Hi Shail,Am an avid lurker of this blog..Wishing u happy moving..Actually we are moving to Delhi this July..I really wanted to meet u, IHM and Ritu if u find me not too much of a kid for your company!
Thank you for de-lurking.. and welcome to Shail’s Nest 🙂 If I visit Delhi again, I will let you know. Deal? Don’t worry, I have friends younger than my own children 😉
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