Once upon a time I knew someone called Jakey. He referred to his observations on life (sometimes funny, at times sarcastic, but always profound) as Jakeisms. Though I am no match for him, I am taking a leaf out of his book and calling some of my own observations, though superficial, as Shailisms. I hope that is okay by Jakey.
So here are a few Shailisms.
- People differ in looks, nature, temperament… so do their definition of ‘love’. Whatever the differences, when you find another whose definition of ‘love’ coincides with your own, voila, you have a successful relationship. (This is my rule of half-circles, and the answer to the question you asked, IHM)
- It is amusing to watch how every generation without fail ties itself into knots and literally MAKES itself miserable and agitated over everything the next generation does (what they wear or do not, among a lot of other things). When will the truth hit home??
- The need to know… what do they know of it, they who do not want to know or they who think they know.
- Don’t force friendship. Let it happen.
- When people are good to you and ‘give’ you of themselves in a never before manner, it is time to wonder: What guilt are they trying to assuage by this unusual generosity??
- Why do some people think it is okay to categorize something they have not really understood as ‘not good enough’??
- As a mother of two, I don’t expect the younger to achieve the standard set by the older, but rather find and set his own level. I view my creations (writings) the same way I do my children, each born of me, but different and unique They are not expected to achieve any standard set by those that came earlier; they set their own.
- Bachelors are true saviors of women. Some woman somewhere is being given a chance in life every time a man decides to remain one.
- Will insistent and loud repetitions transform a lie to truth?? Yes, it does for those who prefer the lie to truth. Those who matter will care to look for the truth behind the lies and they will find it …eventually.
- Some people judge a book by its cover, others a blog by its title.
More will be inflicted on readers as and when they occur to me. Thank you for suffering my wisdom nonsense.
Shail's Nest 
Very funny and profound too…i am sure jakey will appreciate.
@Vivek,
I am glad to hear Jakey would appreciate 🙂 Thank you Vivek.
Wow! You have achieved Zen. Loved no. 8, loved 7 and 5 too …. heck I love em all
@Phoenixritu,
Zen?? :O Thanks Ritu 😀
Great Shailisms. I liked this one the best: “Don’t force friendship. Let it happen”
I think it is the same with love – don’t force love, let it happen (and if it doesn’t – curse your luck and move on)
@Vikram Karve,
Lol, I agree. But with love it takes much effort to move on 🙂
#3 is confusing..:( may be I should come back and read when I am much more alert!!
A big LOL for #8
@BlueHornbill,
Well its like this. There are people with the basic desire to know by asking and hearing, and then there are those who think it is not necessary to put things into words either because they don’t want to know anything themselves or because they think they already know (what they think they know could be wrong.
Is it a bit confusing?? 😉
Good ones…
I have one of my own – Being alone does not mean you are lonely…
@Sraboney,
Thank you. And the one you have mentioned is there in a slightly different form among my un-posted -isms too. But people rarely understand this one, don’t you think??. There I would be sitting on my own quite contentedly and well meaning people rush over and fuss as if I was feeling lost and lonely on my own. Takes the joy out of solitude!
The semi circles are Alankrita’s metaphor actually, where she described herself a a content triangle 🙂
I totally agree with you and Alankrita, I feel we are not semi circles, we are complete circles/triangles/squares/random shapes, if we find another shape whose ‘love coincides with our own’ – great.
If we don’t we are just as fine on our own, with a circle of friends, hobbies, goals and a life.
About Generation Gap – parents who stop growing after/in their twenties are the ones who feel it the most. I have never known it with my kids. We enjoyed each other’s music, books, art, points of views and I knew even in their generation there were many who lived in the mindset of twenty years ago.
@Indian Homemaker,
I agree with you about people who stop growing. Its the same in my house too. But I really feel funny that generations together repeat the same words. From Plato (probably from before too) to the present, it is the same words said about the next generation.
what is this semicircle theory?
That one is just a half circle and the partner (the other half circle) completes and makes it a whole. IHM had asked me what I thought about it.
5,6,7,9,10 – completely agree!!
You make me want to make a similar list 🙂
@Indian Homemaker,
You should IHM. Going to be fun compiling our lists. I have more. But I will post ten at a time 😉
Loved the list 🙂 especially the one that says ‘dont force friendship. let it happen’ very true 🙂
@R’s Mom,
Thanks 🙂 This one is especially for well meaning people who want to be your friends from the word go. 😛
What profound observations ! Shail and the art of zenism 🙂
Loved them all !
@Ruchira,
Thank you. *blushing at praise* 😉
I loved them all!
Esp, – “Don’t force friendship”
8, 9 and 10 and brilliant! and the first one- makes a lot of sense.
@Pixie,
The first is my take on a successful relationships. There is no ideal relationship set as benchmark for the rest to follow. It differs and each can be a success in their own ways.
Thanks. 🙂
Some comments on some of your Shailisms
2. Not only that, every generation also thinks the previous generation were a useless lot!
4. Also, don’t invite enmity. Don’t let enmity happen.
5. Can’t agree here. A mother gives her all to her child. Is she guilty?
Great social workers “Give”. What guilt do you feel Mother Teresa was hiding? Do you wish to doubt their bonafides.
What you say may be true of some who give money. Ill – gotten money. In the belief that charity will wash away the sins they accumulated when accumulating money.
7. I agree partially. Let them set their own standards which may be “different” from the standards of others but let that not be a license to set low standards, which are easier to achieve.
8. What about the corollary? Are spinsters true saviours of men? Is some man some where being spared the horrors of matrimony every time some woman decides to remain single?
9. The Nazis believed this and practised it. They did succeed for some time in making the average German Citizen believe them.
10. And some judge a blog by the pretty face of the author which mostly turns out to be a picture taken during the woman blogger’s younger days!
Quote:
More will be inflicted on readers as and when they occur to me. Thank you for suffering my wisdom nonsense
Unquote:
I have many of my own. My family has suffered enough from these and I will spare all of you!
But I am willing to suffer some more from you. Go ahead.
Regards
GV
@G Vishwanath,
2.If the younger generation thinks so, in the first place they are younger and don’t have experience as yet. Can’t say that for the older ones who have been through a phase youth themselves, but still do not have the grace or maturity to understand and act accordingly.
4. Agree. Bu I also think that if standing up for yourself means inviting enmity, then so be it 🙂
5. You missed the words, ‘in a never before manner’. Normally a mother does not neglect a child and suddenly start patronizing it. So this does not concern mothers. By the way, this is not about money at all, it clearly says, ‘‘give’ you of themselves. 🙂
7. I rather think you missed what this one is about 🙂
8. That is what was being claimed. So this is my counterpoint.
10. True, but I wouldn’t use the name ‘judge’ for that, more like ‘attracted’ to the blog because of the picture. And if that blogger has posted a younger picture of herself, such brainless idiots as those who visit a blog for a picture, deserve no better. So its quits.
More in the offing 🙂
“Some people judge a book by its cover, others a blog by its title. ”
LOL!! 😀
I plead guilty 😉
@momofrs,
Really?? Errr… I don’t judge a blog by its title, but I used to give it a go by if the font is not readable. Now of course I use http://www.readability.com 🙂
Loved the list….. 🙂 🙂 So much gyaan here for ppl to learn….. 🙂 🙂 Am bookmarking this page, for future reference. 🙂
Totally agree on #1 – suits me perfectly. 🙂
LOL @ #8 !!!! 🙂 🙂
@UmaS,
Awww…. 😛 Thanks for the bookmark.
The 8th one was in response to some wisecracks from cousins about how man is saved when a woman decides not to marry. Oh really?! Morons. 😉
rofl at 8 !!!
like em all. am sure jakey will appreciate this 😉
@Scorpria,
😉 (for the 8th)
If Jakey does that, I will be more than happy! 🙂
@Shail, ROFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!
oops🙂@Govind,
What’s happening?? :O
There was a
girlladywoman called ShailAnd by chance I met her on a blog trail.
If anybody would dare say women are frail
She would, the insinuator, with her words assail
And now with her wisdom that she did unveil
She has hit right at the head of the nail.
@Govind,
Hmmm….. 😛 🙂
Govind,
I would like to know how you managed to do what you did on this comment space.(I mean get the words neatly struck off and yet let it be readable)
Unless of course it’s a trade secret.
I sure could find some interesting uses for this technique.
I have always enjoyed your comments on this blog.
Do you blog? Let me know.
Regards
GV
@G Vishwanath,
Yes he does blog, here: http://www.satmuse.wordpress.com/
@G Vishwanath, Thanks for the appreciation about my comments.There are a very few blogs that I comment, Shail’s being one of them. The strike through can be had by using the HTML code
before and after the words you want to be struck@G Vishwanath, OOps Still learning the trick. You could use
🙂@G Vishwanath, There it goes again,you could use (lesser than symbol)(upper case of COMMA) strike (greater than symbol)(upper case of FULLSTOP) before the words you want to strike.
Hope it makes some sense.
woah! what a post. enjoyed each one of shailisms. The 5th I in my parlance call over -compensation.
After reading the 8th one I was rofl.
the first one just makes too much of sense that I am already questioning some of my ideologies.
@Anita Menon,
Thank you Lol, yeah over compensation or assuaging their guilt or want something from you?!
Ahh, I believe completely in the first one. 🙂
Lovely Shail!! Hooting at the bachelor one…next person who walks through my door is going to have shailisms flung at them….!!
Do want to share something i wrote to myself when i was in college.. a different take on something you have mentioned as well…” If someone does or says something really nice to you/about you, remember its not coz you are special…its coz they are!!
I hope i was not being just naive!! 🙂
@arch,
Glad you enjoyed reading them. Yay, fling them Shailisms! 🙂
And I loved the Archism! 🙂
1.I would add, so does their “idea” of God, Politics, conventions and Ethics. Hmm as for relationships, I am a full circle that opens to allow others in or out.. I don’t fit them into me or me into them *giggling*
2.I am going to post that on the fridge, so that I can undo my knots should they appear. (I believe in prevention than the curing)
3.I agree…the only time I lose my beauty sleep is when its something I want to know but haven’t yet.
4.And Love and most anything that comes to life- you force it, you break it.
5.I do wonder about it. I try hard not to take what they are giving. Cause when its giving to such a degree, the taking will also be to such a degree.
6.Cause it’s a catch all Box…its easy to not think than think and come to the conclusion we that we are Ignorant.
7.AMEN!! To that… I haven’t understood how people compare snails to slugs.
8.Oh I am still laughing at that one…
9.Ah the Brainwashing and Indoctrination… we all go through the process and are DOMESTICATED, only some remain immune to it.
10.LOL! The only thing I judge is the food by its smell 😛
Nice Shailisms, Shailji.
@Rashmi,
Loved your points 🙂 Lol, yeah food is about the only thing you can judge by its smell 😉
WOW, These Shailisms have indeed been most enlightening. How and by doing what did you get such profound GYAN to share? I envy you!!!! 😀 Shailism NO. 3 is quite a tongue twister and still a mind boggler for this inferior me!! 😉
Thanks a ton for tagging me at FB or I would have missed out on some pearls, really!!!
Thank you Vibhuti (very late response eh?) 🙂
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LOVED 7 & 10! Absolutely loved!
😀
Again loved
The need to know… what do they know of it, they who do not want to know or they who think they know. – This shud be my favv of the lot 🙂
feel like peeping in ur brain 🙂
I nod at most of them
Where is my brain armor? Afshan wants to peep in! :O Just kidding 😉 🙂