Have you ever met Everyone? Who IS this faceless Everyone of whom we hear so much?
Once I happened to mention that I have made it clear to my children that bringing up their children is their responsibility, and they, the children, cannot assume that I will be the caretaker by default. What prompted me to say this is the way I see young couples have children soon after marriage as a matter of course, then ‘dump’ those children on the parents and go about their life.
The wise (my foot!) old ladies around me shook their collective heads pityingly at my ignorance. Everyone says that, they enlightened me, but when the time comes, no one can resist grandchildren. Excuse me. I don’t know who this Everyone is or why Everyone’s words should be accorded more importance than my own when it comes to myself. Do I know myself more or does Everyone?
Then there was the time a decade back when I was having some serious issues with the power consumption in my house. The bills I was getting were way too high and bore no connection to the usage in a house with just two occupants, the Second Born and I. The boy was mostly at college and I rarely used even the fan. There was no AC either. And yet the meter showed the consumption to have been very high month after month.
I had electricians come over and check the wiring, and also the electronic appliances, more than once. Then as a next step, we complained to the Electricity Board. They agreed that the bill was way too high for non commercial consumption. They had their people check the outside wiring. Next, they suggested perhaps the electronic meter was faulty. It was rare, but it could happen. Did you notice what I wrote above? The suggestion about the electronic meter being faulty came from THEIR office, NOT FROM ME.
When I reached this point of the story about my electric-bill-woes, someone walked in and having only heard the ‘electronic meter could be faulty’ bit told me, “Everyone thinks that electronic meter pushes the bill up! But no. You must first get your wiring checked, the appliances…. yada, yada, yada.” There it was, everything I said being thrown back at me as if I was a nincompoop whose upper storey was empty. On top of that, I had been compared to the brainless Everyone, whoever THAT was, who (unlike me) thought electronic meter alone raised the bills. Like, really?
The other day I wondered aloud why some old people felt too ashamed to use walking sticks even-though that was what the doctor advised them to do as falls could be fatal with their brittle bone condition. Someone turned to me then and said, “Everyone says that, but when the time comes, even you would feel the same and won’t use one.”
Excuse me, This sort of interpretation of MY thought processes I was not going to let go meekly. IF the doctor advises me today that I need to use a walking stick, I WILL, I said, I am NOT ashamed of walking sticks. Walking sticks don’t define me, nor the fact that I need to use them if/when the time arises. I am who I am and will be, in spite of walking sticks or hearing aids or whatever. That’s what people talking to me tend to forget. But… once again I did not get who this Everyone was who is supposed to have said what I said.
Seriously, WHO is this Everyone that everyone seems to know? Have you met the omniscient Everyone who seems to have an opinion on everything? Is this Everyone the same as the one who invokes fear and horror among people, the one they refer to when they say, “What will Everyone say?!” Is this the Everyone for whom parents disown children, push them to do what they hate, force them into marriages, even kill at times and also die? In case you do come across Everyone, let them know I am looking for them, also warn them that I am geared up for battle.
©Shail Mohan 2016
Day 23 NaBloPoMo 2016
Dismissing this mythical ‘everyone’ is the best way to live life.
‘log kehte hain/log kya kahenge’ is the hindi version.
My personal life is amazing once many realised that I cannot be made to do things simply by invoking this mythical ‘everyone’. Not even for my mom and dad’s ‘izzat. ‘(maa baap ki izzat/ghar ki/khandaan ki naak is irrevocably linked with this ‘everyone’ fellow by the way.)
You said it. ‘Everyone’ is best dismissed 🙂
I most certainly will let Everyone know…and if you come across Everyone first, please sned y way once you’re done with Everyone.
And, there are few things that piss me off as young couples having kids and letting the grandparents raise them for the most part of the day. Ugh!
Seriously, that’s one thing that pisses me off too. And I’ll definitely let you know if/when I find this ‘Everyone’ ! 😉
The challenge is not to invoke ‘everyone’ in the upbringing of one’s children; to be specific as far as possible; and to encourage each to be what they would like to be and to accept the challenges they might meet along the way. “What will people say?” is another inhibiting factor in society.
You said it, Anne!
Anonymously Disguised said:
I get the same answer when I tell people that I am not going to take care of my grandchildren (if my kids decide to have them, that is). People tell me that I am thinking like this now because I am overwhelmed and tired caring for my children and once they grow up, I will be bored and grandchildren will be the ones who will bring the sparkle back in my life. They know nothing about my kind of sparkle!! It drives me insane trying to not answer back every single time to these silly people who think that they have the remote to my brain.
Tell me about it! I relate to every word you said. “They know nothing about my kind of sparkle!!” Never a truer word said.
If it were possible, I’d use a walking cane now. If only to whack “everyone”.
What a splendid idea! 😉
Ready for battle against Everyone
And battling alone is not quite fun
So Everyone join in
We’ll create a din
And congratulate Everyone when we are done!
Sounds like fun 🙂
Julia - Aberrant Crochet said:
Visiting over form NaBloPoMo. I love this! I deal with a lot of “everyone” while my husband fights brain cancer. Seems everyone’s an expert. So hey, I’m really curious now – what turned out to be running your electric bill up?????
Hi Julia, welcome to Shail’s Nest 🙂 Sorry to hear about your husband’s cancer.
The problem was faulty wiring (it was an old house) and the last person who did the repair work on some fault had messed up. This was found by a new man who came to check the lines, who also couldn’t find anything wrong at first, but fortunately for all concerned, he asked if any repairs had been done in recent times. I showed him the exact point and when he opened it he realized it was a Pandora’s box! We had to move house soon after because he said continuing there would be risky until and unless the whole thing was changed.
Julia - Aberrant Crochet said:
Wow, now I want to get my wiring checked! Our electric bill always seems higher than it should be, even when the AC isn’t on. I know our windows need to be recaulked, but I wonder now if there’s more. Thanks for sharing! 🙂
You are welcome 🙂
Ha ha…I love this kind of posts from you!
On a serious note…lets prepare a firing squad for this everyone!
How everything we say is interpreted as said by everyone!
Thank you, Uma 😉 And yeah, why not: 😀
Sandhya Kumar said:
Kuch toh log kahenge…longon (everyone) ka kaam hai kehna…chodo bekaar ki baatein…let them go to hell..
That’s a beautiful song, isn’t it? 🙂