Do you know the power a female weaver bird has? Ha! Unlike her human counterparts. she has not been taught to be coy and subservient when it comes to expressing her views. She is not the, jo aap kahe (whatever you say) type. In matters that concern her, she has a voice and uses it.
The male weaver bird, in charge of making a nest, expertly weaves blades of grass and leaves from nearby trees (after first fastening it to the branch of a tree) to make one. Phew, he says once it is done. Now to interest someone, not just anyone mind you, it has to be a female weaver bird, to come and live with me.
With this in mind, he hangs upside down at the bottom near the entry to his nest, flutters his wings, sings his song. Not everyone’s idea of what sets a heart aflutter. But there you have it, this is how weaver birds play the love game. Along comes a female bird. Ha, someone’s done with nest-building. Let’s take a look and see if it is any good.
She peers in. If she doesn’t like that first look she flies away… or (here’s where I go all wide-eyed), in some cases, she destroys the whole nest. Yup, it becomes nothing but rubble.. er, I mean dried leaves and grass on the ground. She then goes away to wait on a branch of a tree nearby to wait and see if he can do better.
The male bird starts afresh, if the nest has been completely destroyed, if not, he removes parts from here and there and rebuilds, weaving more blades of grass and leaves making it securer, sturdier. Again he sings, calling out to the female. The solo inspection team promptly flies down, peers inside, walks in, shakes the nest a good deal (gotta check if it can be safe on a windy day, right?). Sheesh, this feller has a lot more to learn. She flies off.
This continues four to five times and as per some human eye-witnesses in one case, a good twenty-five times! Only, and ONLY when she is sure about her living quarters does the female bird move in. After all she has to think about the safety of the eggs she is to lay and the chicks that are to hatch.
Did you notice one thing? The female bird says ‘no’ multiple times and the male bird does not flip at all. Some strength of character, that. If a human male hears a ‘no’ most times he takes it as an affront to his masculinity. A ‘no’ can even get a human female killed.
Yes, these ladies can be fussy
Not only — but also sassy
Take a spike
Destroy it, and then be frassy!
That’s it in a limerick 🙂
Abhigyan Saha said:
Wow what a post. I loved it.
Thank you, Abhigyan 🙂
Sad world we live in.. The last line hits hard..It defintely can get a human female killed.. A simple no
Yes, really sad.
Blame patriarchy and the obsession for the male gender and their importance. Even I was told i have to comply to my husband and in laws and live under their standards, and that they can treat me any way they want (good or bad).. So can never say “no” whatsoever.
I hope egalitarian is established and breaks this horrid mindset.
I had hoped things would change for the next generation with regard to kowtowing to the in-laws, but the change is too slow in happening.
I agree with you. In very conservative places, it’s easy to be brainwashed since the majority of society is conservative. However, life is difficult there for people who can think outside the box and are more progressive. No wonder they always look for a way out. But even though it’s slow, I’m kinda happy it’s transforming to some extent.
Al Falah mj said:
Human beings might’ve evolved but they forgot the basic concept. In every other species there’s no zabardasti. Females are wooed and males don’t find that degrading.
You have a point!
Wow ! Amazing ! Loved every bit of it !
Inspiration for me personally to be more courageous and speak my heart out.
I am glad you are inspired! 🙂
Sheila M. Good, Author said:
I really enjoyed this post. Who knew? I’d never heard of the Weaver bird but I’m impressed. I like a strong and sassy female. @sheilamgood at Cow Pasture Chronicles
Me too 🙂 I don’t know why they aim for the assembly line models here.
Sheila M. Good, Author said:
I hear you!