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Once again Trivandrum (or Thiruvananthapuram) is in the news and for the wrong reason, local hoodlums having barged in on a married couple and attacked them. You can read the story here.
This tendency on the part of members of the general public to want to know the nature of the relationship between every man and woman is nothing new in our part of the world. Some years back there was the incident of a few gentlemen in an apartment complex screening and stopping visitors of a lady staying by herself in one of the flats. Like really?! Which century are these morons living in? I personally know an instance where jobless local lowlifes entered a house forcefully to ‘bust’ a budding relationship which they conveniently tagged as ‘immoral’ and another instance when a letter was dashed off to the husband working away from home about his wife having too many visitors (which of course means they were all jumping into bed with her according to the dumbos parading as gentlemen!).
Whether immoral (a term for unmarried or extramarital liaisons) or socially sanctioned, HOW IS IT ANY BLEDDY BUSINESS OF OTHERS, who meets who, or even who sleeps with who? But try telling that to the self-styled ‘moral’ (sic!) police or even the apathetic general public who secretly think it is all a good thing that there are such ‘checks’ on ‘unsavory’ happenings. Morons, one and all.
So now what, we go around proving marital status to every (im)moral policing lout who comes along?! Time to wake up, people of Kerala, and learn what constitutes your right and what amounts to unwarranted interference.
©Shail Mohan 2015
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Wow, disturbing. So different from our Western culture. Here it’s more of a problem that people don’t know or care about each other’s lives or problems, a lot of the time.
Yes. That’s on the other end of the spectrum so to speak.
Seriously!! How the hell is it any of their business?!! How ridiculous!!
Ridiculous to the extreme.
We live among such idiots !! Read the story in the papers…
I fear for the safety of children, mine and everyone else’s, with such crazies around, never questioned by the populace, subtly if not openly encouraged too. 😦
Its disturbing actually. Do these moral police have nothing better to do in life?
It is, indeed disturbing. 😦
More than the couple, they will target women. They are jobless filthy people.
Yes. In the case of the girl who was being dropped by a male friend, she was slapped!
Well said, Shail. Even if one has an extramarital affair how is that someone else’s business other than the three people involved, I will never understand this sick mentality.
Exactly. What gives absolute strangers any right to interfere?!
Not just in Kerala, people everywhere think it is their business to ‘police’ the ‘morals’ of women.
True, that, sadly enough.
This is horrible! I read the news piece too. thanks for sharing! how stupid can people get and why are they bothered? gosh!
it is a shame, such happenings 😦
Well said. There’s much to be done yet in the world to enable people to carry on their own private lives peacefully. I’m not sure we’ll ever get there but…
Long way to go.
Omigod, this is unacceptable. These guys need to go to jail.
I hope they do!
I am fed up, sick and tired of the moral police. They seriously need to get a life! Good you brought this up Shail. Let’s hope some people learn to not poke their nose where it is not needed!
Seriously, they need to! 😦 I feel they need to get their nose bashed up literally and figuratively before they stop poking it where not wanted.
The right to judge is being taken for granted
Opinions are increasingly skewed and slanted
The right to anyone’s intimacy
Is no longer part of privacy
The pride of Kerala — highest literacy — now makes one disenchanted!
True. Literacy has not helped any to free themselves from narrow mindsets, especially when it comes to women 😦
It is worrisome and embarrassing mostly! When will people learn to mind their own business! Nicely written!
There have been occasions when such interference has resulted in death, suicide.
Thank you, Shalzz.
Basic problem is unemployment along with mentality of people.moment these people something to do on their own they won’t have time to look after other’s life.
You have a point. The mentality needs to be changed.
That is really disquieting.
It is, Mel.
This is actually scary. I hope we dont end up complying with the sentence “What to do? We live here. We have to bow to the wishes of the strong, it is like this Only.”
I wonder if they realize that their behaviour it is Lacking in Nobleness(arent they saving the “Aryan” aka Noble, culture) when you interfere in an individual’s personal life? It means you have no respect for another’s Personhood.
People did play an an unwarranted interests in the life of others, especially the ‘who is sleeping with who’ department. And if they fall in the society’s not-permitted list, then shaming them is the favorite pastime/hobby. Sick! I am appalled actually. Is there nothing better for a society to do?
Just curious, how do you handle if you are “not permitted” in the society? And what is the criteria you need to be “permitted into society”? Cuz I’m definitely not. on that list and for some reason my parents are stressed about that since they think they will blamed for it. Could you do a post on that in the near future? I know it’s wrong because there is no respect for anyone and perhaps this is why NRKs who lived outside Kerala for a long time are no longer a fan of living or returning to Kerala, and I’m finding some youth there are desperate to move from there as well. Funny.
Interference, being nosy, and gossip..typical malayalee trait. I have seen mallus just bud in so they can spread unwarranted gossip and perhaps something interesting to talk about. I do agree that it’s ridiculous though. Luckily not all mallus believe in this shit, but still most people in Kerala do.
If it was just gossip one could ignore them, but barging in on people and threatening them, use of violence, all that cannot be allowed to continue.
Kerala has it real bad! This is a pet rant of mine… and I have personal experience of it too! As you say… it really is none of their bleddy business!!!
I am wondering (and this is a genuine doubt) how the hell are married people supposed to prove their married status? not of course that it is anyone else’s business. But I still wonder, how?! Morons, the lot of them.