I am fuming. No, it is not because I have yet again come across stupid *intelligent* people on Facebook sharing about fruits, leaves and whatnot’s with magical properties to cure nearly everything from the Common Cold to Cancer. Like hell they do, but I digress.
Today morning I heard about a pregnant woman (carrying twins) who is admitted to the hospital. I won’t go into the medical details as I am not competent enough to do that, suffice to say that the doctors feel she might need a C section due to complications. The husband though, insists that she give birth the natural way. Why? Good question. He thinks a woman has to give birth in pain, otherwise she will not be a true mother, and will lack *motherly* feelings towards the child(ren).
Did your jaw drop to the floor? Are you fuming now too?
What gives a man the right to be the judge about *motherly* feelings? Which crucible of pain does he go through to get *fatherly* feelings towards his child(ren)? How about the love showered on adopted children by a mother (and father)?
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oh what fresh hell is this!!
Like it wasn’t enough that women judged women abt this – now we need men weighing in their misguided opinions on this?!!
jeez!
did someone whack the said man on the head till his wife delivered? … I hope she is doing ok..
I hope someone did. By the way, she did have a C section eventually and now is doing okay. 🙂
Sounds like an idiot to me!
He sure does.
Can you imagine what this man would say if his wife decided that she is I charge of all decisions about his body.
Judy
I am wondering too.
Looks like the husband is a complete moron..
Gotta be one, to talk this way!
Wow, that’s such ignorance.
If the mother is having complications, especially with twins, a c section is definitely needed ! It’s the quickest way to ensure safety for both mom and baby(ies). Natural birth runs further risk. Say if one of the babies gets stuck in the birth canal, it won’t be a happy ending for both the mom and baby where they won’t be coming home! (know what I mean?). How does a c-section correlate with not bonding with your child? No matter how you give birth, once you see your baby that maternal instinct will kick in ! Such BS !!
You know how older women in our place look down on those who haven’t given birth the natural way? I bet some of it has rubbed off on this idiot too. There are quite a few men, and women, with such wrong notions. Sad, actually.
Is this story even true? Who the hell is sharing these dumbass things on FB?!!
No, you misunderstand. Perhaps I wasn’t clear. The story of the pregnant woman is real, one that I heard from someone I personally know. Actually I am waiting for an update about how it all went.
Oh it’s real!! Why the hell doesn’t the guy subject himself to pain at that level to ensure he has fatherly feelings. Crazy people
Fish! What kind of man he is! But I am also not very much surprised. Some people are jerks enough to intervene in matters like this where they have no expertise.
Came over here from the Stirrup link – Here is my entry – https://happinessandfood.wordpress.com/2015/03/02/microblogmondays-the-goof-up/
I agree. I am also not surprised as I have heard many women talk like this too.
gosh, that sounds awful. then again, what are we to expect from a nation that prides itself in being regressive about gender equality. marital rape is still decriminalized, comrade. sometimes it blows my mind that we once had a woman for a president. sure nobody cared, i guess we know why.
The sad part is there are quite a few women who feel superior for giving birth the supposedly natural way. I myself have been witness to their talk. But I expected all that to be in the past, behind us. Apparently it is still around, alive and kicking.
I am not able to digest that a husband can ever say this kind of a thing for his wife. Does bearing pain carries more importance than caring for the lives of the babies and mother? My heart goes out for the pregnant woman
Exactly the way I felt. By the way, the wife did have a C section. I bet you that the husband is sure to bring this up in future conversations! Still, I am hoping he will not.
Hopefully a well qualified obstetrician was able to tell the idiot husband where to get off and whose opinion counts in a medical situation.
Like countless other women, I delivered my baby via C section. And I love my child to the moon and back!
What he told was to the Obstetrician. But yes, ultimately her word won. I can imagine how much you love your child. People also love their adopted children. What this man said is just not true.
My head just exploded. Does health of the mother and child mean nothing?
That’s what should have been of concern first and foremost.
Er.. this could be anything but ‘micro’.
Yeah, I agree.
No, my jaw did not drop, in fact my jaw took shape of long curved smile 🙂 hahahahaha… when I read / hear such things I feel so so stupid about them that it has stopped astonishing me. My jaw doesn’t drop anymore or my forehead doesn’t get creases… maybe I’ve become so immune to such news and mentality that it has stopped bothering me anymore 😦
People like the husband above are in plenty and that’s the sad part of our society!
On the other hand I’ve to share something related to C sec & ‘normal’ delivery : When I was due with Chirpy, in one of my visits to our Doc, we were discussing about delivery methods : Supposedly normal and C-sec. My doc interrupted and told me not use the word “normal” as it is a wrong word and there is nothing called normal delivery! It was a pleasant news! She explained, either the delivery is vaginal or c-sec and both are normal methods of delivering a child and it depends on the female’s and child’s situation which method should be opted for- simple!
I came back home with a smile and peace in my heart! I loved my doc even more 🙂 such simple things are so twisted and made complicated in our society that people have started believing in nothingness of relating the type of deliveries and motherhood etc.
Anyway, the next part here is, I delivered Chirpy via C-sec owing to all the complication that I had towards the end of my labor. My family had no second thoughts in saying a quick yes for C-sec because what was important was me and the baby come out fine from all this. So C-sec it was and everything went well, thank god! But then, the phone calls that were coming in to congratulate us, couple of aunty relatives made a nasty remark on me having a C-sec. the convo went on like this
Aunty: congratulations, how are you now?
Me: I’m fine aunty, thank you!
Aunty: normal delivery na?
Me: no aunty, c-sec
Aunty: Ohhh!
conversation ends!
I was like are you serious? hahahah silly people and their silly thought processes! Such people should all be brought comedy shows running on TV 🙂
P.S. I almost ate this space! Thank you lending me your blog 😉
Applause!!! Yes it is vaginal delivery. May be they call it normal or natural bcs f the word vaginal? Shh… censor board might hear…
Lol @censor board might hear 🙂
ya ya right hehehe censor board must hear to this and to the other stupid things too 😀
I am so very glad to hear what your doctor had to say. I am going to repeat this to anyone who dares use the word ‘normal’ in connection with delivery.
The husband is just a dumb+stupid+fucktard.
What he is doing is illegal.
It is only mother’s choice how she wants to give birth…
The husband does not have any right…
It is sick how older women in the household encourage such views!
This is vulgar. Why are our men like this?
😦
I have a bigger question, should he even be allowed to propagate his genes?? is that a wise move? don’t we have enough morons already.?
Very pertinent questions!
Ok that is just sad! In what century are these people living?Tragic to read ideas and opinions like the father’s 😦
Sad to think it is still happening.