As a blogger who speaks her mind, I have often ruffled feathers. I guess that goes with the territory for most of us in the same boat. More than what is written the culprit seems to be how it is read. Content can be interpreted in different ways. The tone/color/mood applied to it depends mostly on the reader. Yet the writer is somehow held responsible for the reader’s subjectivity. For instance, when a reader sees aggression/arrogance wouldn’t it be appropriate to first pause and ask how much of it is reflection of their self and how much the writer’s intention?
Just a thought.
01 Monday Apr 2013
Usha Pisharody said:
😀 Birds of a feather 🙂 Reader’s intent vs writer’s intent. Favourite topic of discussion in Class when we check our understanding of texts 🙂
Ahh, is it? Why don’t you post a blog on it, Usha? Will surely be interesting to hear what your class had to say 🙂
People read what they want to, or as per the influence of what they are feeling at that moment
…. but don’t accept that fact 🙂
Corinne Rodrigues said:
One of the reasons I admire your writing is that you don’t hold back, Shail. We can be opinionated without being arrogant. If we weren’t opinionated – we’d have nothing to write about! 😉 Here’s to some more ruffled feathers!
For some reason your comment had gone to the spam folder. Thank you Corinne. Yes I guess I will just be myself and ruffle more feathers. 😉
Indian Homemaker said:
I too ruffle the feathers of misogynists and culture vultures… but I generally suspect they don’t even bother to read the posts.
There are many of that ilk who don’t read, and then ask questions about what’s already in the post 🙂
Roshan Radhakrishnan said:
definitely agree… what we say in jest or a satire may be taken as a personal affront by others. If they lack a sense of humour or atleast open mindedness, does that necessarily make us ‘the bad guys’
I hear you loud and clear. Exactly my grouse 🙂
And welcome to Shail’s Nest, Roshan.
Sandhya Kumar said:
Sometimes we become happy without any reason and feel everything is green green! Same thing applies to reading or in watching movies. Sometimes we love some very ordinary movies, if we are in good mood or with good company. Sometimes a very good movie will look ‘very average’ for us!
Same applies to music. If it is connected to happy moments, even a not so special song becomes very very special 🙂
Sandhya Kumar said:
So true! I totally agree with you , and this is a question I ‘ve asked myself several times….
Glad to read more of you think so too 🙂
Holds true for comments too!
I too have ruffled quite a few feathers with my comments.
Just keep writing.
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Thanks GV. So you are on your way back. Welcome back to India 🙂
Let all the loose feathers ruffle
they’ll provide relief from the heat that stifle
let it be known that you will not whiffle
nor will you let your voice muffle. 🙂
Welcome back, Govind 🙂
We bring our experiences to the table when we respond or react to something in life. How someone responds to something we say or write says more about them than us.
One of my favourite quotes,
“Definitions belong to the definers, not the defined” — Toni Morrison
Let em draw as many conclusions about you as they can.
As for ruffled feathers ….here’s a toast to ruffling some more 😉
I love that Toni Morrison quote. Succinctly put.
And thank you. Will continue ruffling feathers 😉
If someone reads what you write and comments upon it I can understand. There are many ‘ruffled feathered’ ones who don’t read the actual blog but only the comments and form an opinion. THAT is so funny.
It is, I agree Vivek.
It’ okay if someone feels ruffled but can express their feelings in a reasonable way. If someone’s upset about a post or a comment, they could explain why and where they’re coming from, how their own experiences in the matter can offer a different perspective. If they simply accuse the person writing the post instead of disagreeing, it is unhelpful and unlikely to change anyone’s mind.
Welcome to Shail’s Nest. 🙂 I agree with your comment. Assuming and accusing are a big no no. Dialogue is always welcome even if it is to disagree.
What irritates me at times is that people read half of the post and jump to conclusions.
I hear you! It is a sore point with me too.
Areed!! Loved your take on the topic! 🙂
And people jump to conclusions or take offence usually when they are guilty of something! 😛
That’s my experience anyway…
And most folks love jumping to conclusions! heh!