Hmmm… I wonder if I should consider confining the green salwar-kameez to the unused section of my wardrobe. Of course I have not outgrown it though at the rate at which I am growing I might do just that in the days to come. Well might you ask what then I have against this particular dress?! Is it the color?? No siree, it’s not. I don’t have anything against green (in fact I love the green in nature) or any color for that matter. I love them all equally. In fact, I have never understood the passionate preference or the extreme hatred for this or that color exhibited by quite a majority of the populace. As far as I am concerned colors are colors and they are ALL pretty as can be. When I go shopping, I go with mind wiped clean of prejudices against any color and buy whatever catches my fancy right then and any trends be damned. Trends (especially in colors) are for the fickle-minded who don’t know what they want and have no option but be led by the choices of others.
Come to think of it, there was a time when I was all for a particular color for what was to be worn for a special event in my life. I had decided quite early on (too early in fact) that I was going to wear a wedding sari of an off-white color with gold or silver work on it. In the deep recesses of the wooden box with brass corners, I had seen mother’s wedding sari in the same shade and had fallen in love with it. So that was the color I was going to have too, I was determined. I know, for a girl who was not yet at a marriageable age, had no idea whatsoever of what sort of a man she wanted to marry, strangely and certainly enough, I had definitive ideas on what I was going to wear for my wedding.
Many of you might be horrified at this pushing aside of all colors bright for an event of the magnitude of a wedding. But Mallus till recently have been married in their good old set mundu which comes only in one shade, which the Mallu calls kodi color and which to the rest of the non-Mallus is off-white/cream/whatever. The new colors that had by then invaded tiny Keralam from other states made not an impression on me.
Rudely intruding upon this day dream of mine one fine day…. errr, make that night, came another dream (not a day dream this time but the sub-conscious variety) and in that dream, I saw myself getting married, to this tall guy, in a green sari. I had no thoughts about the tall guy, never wondered about him, but the green sari in my dream ruffled my feathers. Green?? No way at all, I thought to myself on waking up, not realizing that the sub conscious was trying to tell me something. I was only eighteen and a wedding was something still far off in the distant future.
When finally the event materialized after some breaking of ice, I found myself in Nagercoil, the hot-spot for wedding saris during the early 80s for those staying in Trivandrum . My Aunt who accompanied us on the mission was the first to throw the spanner into my (day dream-) works. You are not going thinking of wearing white for your wedding, she said in disbelief. White that beautiful color of purity is associated with widowhood in India hence the horrified looks when one wants anything close to white in your trousseau. Excuse me dear Aunt, you are talking through your bally hat, I wanted to tell her, like a true Wodehouse fan, though she had never in her life worn a hat, least of all knew how to talk through one, off-white is not white and hence is called off-white.
Have you seen bulldozers?? If you have you’d get an idea why I didn’t get a chance to voice my opinion. She was a human bull-dozer in appearance and use of words. I looked at mother for support, who looked everywhere else but at me. What nonsense, said my Aunt and put forward the irrefutable logic that everyone in India understands and on hearing which they quietly lay themselves on the ground with all fours in the air in abject surrender, namely, what will people think?? She then proceeded to clinch it with, what will the groom’s family think/say??
Well, the fight was lost even before it had begun. The groom’s family must be appeased at all costs. It is the golden rule by which more than ninety percent of the population in India lived(s). And unfortunately, I was still the lamb, not yet the tigress that could look Aunts and other such in the eye and make them wilt with ‘Oh yeah?? Says who??’ which now is sort of second nature.
I had no option but to fall back on some other color. I was damned if I was going to go in for red or magenta that every Rani, Rita and Rajini seemed to be draping themselves with for their wedding. So for whatever it was worth, I put my foot down in a mini-revolt and said, green. I wanted a green wedding sari. And that is how I came about getting married in a green sari at 23 years of age, just like my dream at 18 had prophesied I would.
What has all this got to do with the green salwar-kameez that I am thinking of consigning to ignominy?? Nothing at all; rather all I was trying to say in my rambling way was that I am not for or against any particular color and hence the color green is not the reason for considering ‘consigning to ignominy’ with reference to said dress. The problem lies elsewhere. The green salwar-kameez seems to be bugged. No sniggers please. It truly is.
The last time I wore it, a bug bugged me by making my ear the subject of its research and I had to go traipsing to the hospital to get myself un-bugged. The next time I wore my green dress, a bug of a different sort bugged me, making me reel and throw up and having to be rushed to the hospital to see the modern equivalent of a medicine man to be de-bugged and made whole again. Of course I am not superstitious. The very idea! But can you really blame me if I look at said salwar-kameez with suspicion and trepidation??
Phoenixritu said:
LOL, throw away the green suit. Dont think or hesitate. Then you can go shopping for a new salwar kameez!
Shail said:
Wow, what a brilliant idea Ritu! 😉
Govind said:
The bugs are attacking coz they have seen
that in the blog world you are the queen
or has found out the non working of your spleen
and not definitely because you are wearing green.
The groom looks dapper and the bride……. well I can’t see her behind the garlands and seems to be out of the frame. Should have asked Mohan to at least repeat at least kneel down. 🙂 😉
Shail said:
Do you know that garland weighed a ton, unlike the extra light garlands of today. Hmm… there is one picture of mine standing on the last step of the mandap with the L & M on ground level, taken that way at the request of the photographer 😛
Vivek said:
Haha bugged dress eh…how about debugging it ..I know someone in the CIA that can do it for you
Shail said:
Send him/her right along Vivek.
kirti said:
Are you sure , you were 23 years at the time of your marriage , it definitely looks like a child marriage.
The official wedding trousseau for a maharashtrian girl is “green” and , No, she can’t choose any other colour. I think , its a first strong signal she gets that on the path of marriage , her personal choices will have to be sacrificed umpteen times.
Shail said:
Lol, Kirti, I think you are the third or fourth person telling me it looks like ‘child marriage’! 😛
Oh wow, its news to me that someone actually has to go in for green sari. Yeah, I know, these are signals for what lies ahead for a woman.
Sraboney said:
LOL!
My mother had chosen a very pretty gold brocade saree with a red border for her wedding…As you may or may not know, Bengalis get married in red banarasis and when my paternal grandmother found out 2 days before the wedding that her bahu would not be wearing red, she threw a fit…My poor maternal grandmother had to go and buy a red one which my mother didn’t like but had to wear to please her in laws…
Shail said:
Awww… I can empathize with your mother’s feelings! 😦 🙂
Monika said:
ha ha ha the green salwar kameez must be dumped NOW
and well this wedding dress bussiness I just dont get why cant a bride select what she wants to? I still hold it against N because I had to wear what his mom liked on my wedding day but I did make it up for reception 😉
Shail said:
You think so too eh Monika! 😉 I managed to buy an off-white sari (but then too I had to opt for one with a maroon border) for the temple function. 🙂
Dreamer said:
I am not superstitious at all, really! But still I would advise you to get rid of said green salwar kameez at a time and date fixed by a reliable astrologer 😉 . Btw adorable wedding snap, love the height difference 🙂
Shail said:
Lol, yeah an astrologer’s advice has to be sought to get rid of the green dress. 😉 Thank you 🙂
arch said:
Do the Bachans know they have stiff competition??
About the green dress, once ur mind has made that kind of a connection, it will most probably continue to do so (pseudo freud ;p) go shopping shail!!! 🙂
Shail said:
Lol Arch, comparison to the Bachchans was among the first comments we started receiving after the wedding! 😉
Don’t worry Arch, I am not the superstitious kind and will be wearing the green dress again. But shopping is not a bad idea at all! 😉
momofrs said:
LOL!!!
Thats one of the cutest wedding snaps ever!!
It reminds me of the snaps of my in-laws. My FIL is 6ft and MIL is 4ft11in tall. Even the MIL was made to stand on a small stool for her wedding snaps.
Your generation rocked big time. These days we give too much importance to the similarities between the couple!! Too much emphasis on looks, than content 😦
Anyway, coming back to the green dress, trash it, I say. And buy a new one 😀
Shail said:
Thanks Noorulayn :D. My husband is 6’1 and I am 5′ 🙂 BTW, we are a lot similar, we are also born under the same zodiac sign 🙂 Hmm.. I wouldn’t say our generation did not go by looks. What was the bride-seeing all about?? Looks, money were all too important back then too. Things haven’t changed all that much, may be it has for a handful of people.
BTW, I will definitely go and buy myself a new salwar-kameez 😉
Maddy said:
I wonder if you ever dressed in the mundu?? **Rolling eyes**. Send me the picture if you have one.
shail said:
Stop rolling your eyes Maddy! What’s this?? 😛
isabel said:
it’s you??? on the pic???
Shail said:
Isabellllll! I am so happy to see you!!!!!! 😀 Yes, that’s me in the pics. Check my FB album 😛 😉
leo said:
felt good to read another one of yours..hey let me play the devil here..u say ure not prejudistic to any colour..aha but re u gonna buy a green salwar kameez ever again? 😛 but i forsee a dark and murky future for the said salwar..and hey u can always look at the silver lining..wat better excuse to go shoppin..n by the way do u get dreams of an oracle nature nw also?..cos there are a couple of things iam dyin to know 😛
Shail said:
Thank you Leo. 🙂 Lol, of course I will buy a green one if it catches my eye! Ha, what do you take me for?? I am not scared of bugs! *keeps fingers crossed after typing coz can’t do it while typing* 😛 😆
Oracle-like dreams sadly don’t come on demand. They come on their own and unexpectedly. BTW sometimes they come when I am awake too! 😉
You know with all of you urging me to go buy a new salwar-kameez, I have decided to finally go shopping tomorrow. 🙂
UmaS said:
LOL !!! Stay away from that dress for sometime and see if you are away from such bugging incidents. 😉
And you look so damn cute in that green wedding saree and beautiful too…love that pic, Shail. 🙂 And my God, he sure is tall !!! That explains the sons being taller than you… 😉
Shail said:
@UmaS,
Thank you Uma. and soooo sorry for the late response. I don’t know how I overlooked this comment. Lol, I am the midget among the giants! 😉
Sundeep said:
liked the wedding photo…
that interview of urs came back to mind and realized why you asked that Q 😀
hope no more bugging for you 😉
Shail said:
@Sundeep,
Sorry for the delayed response Sundeep. Oh yeah, the difference in height was accentuated when he stood up the very day we met! 😀