There is an old joke doing new rounds which I came across yesterday, for the umpteenth time.
‘Why is it called mother tongue?? Because the father seldom gets to speak it.’
You found that funny, right??
I did too.
Especially when I remembered the n number of times that father, husband, sons, other male relatives and male friends have monopolized conversations not letting me get a word in edgeways, cut me off mid-sentence and bulldozed me, telling me what I was going to say when I had not even opened my mouth.
WHY do you think I blog?? No such calamity happens here. This is an Interruption-Free Zone.
Hmmm… That sort of gives me a clue as to why there are more women bloggers in blogosphere.
Well anyways, I think the above is a question with such promise. And yet on my search all I could find was the measly single answer given above. So I came up with my own. Here goes:
It is called mother tongue because….
- father is working someplace else so mother has to speak the language.
- father is busy watching TV all the time so mother has to speak the language.
- father has to do overtime and does not get to see the children as often as he wants to so mother has to speak the language
- father hides behind newspaper to escape responsibility so mother has to speak the language
- father has to have time with guy friends so mother has to speak the language
- father has to improve his golf handicap so mother has to speak the language
- father has to go meet his family and Momma dearest so mother has to speak the language
- father feels he has worked hard and needs rest so mother has to speak the language
- father is (insert any appropriate phrase of your choice)
So in conclusion, it is called mother tongue NOT because father seldom gets to speak it, but because FATHER IS SELDOM AROUND TO SPEAK IT.
Updated to add
Please feel free to add your own reasons 😉
So damn true!!! And men, when they start talking … they simply decide that they will ignore interruptions and even decide to think and choose for you, dont they?
Exactly, think and choose for you as if you cannot do that for yourself!
Indian Homemaker said:
I have noticed this happening too.
LOL !!! Gud one !!! 🙂
Even thats why I blog – Interruption free zone and I get to write what I think, without others’ words being put into mine !!!
Everyone has an opinion that sometimes they dont want to hear us !!!
See, I sort of guessed why there are more women bloggers around! 😉
So so so very true! 🙂
Also, father is too busy playing games on the Playstation, so the mother has to speak the language 🙂
Ahh another good one! 🙂 Thank you Smitha.
Winnie the poohi said:
Oh and when they talk.. they dont talk they launch a monologue no ? 😀
I figured its called mother tongue coz the kid learns its words from its mother no?
Actually I don’t know why its called mother tongue. Maybe coz of the reason you mention. My response is to the quote at the beginning! 😉 😛
LOL, good one.
I talk a lot so I can’t complain when somebody cracks this joke about me although 🙂
Welcome to Shails’ Nest Prerna. Lol, yeah perhaps you do talk a lot. But I personally know men who are afflicted with verbal diarrhea of the worst order. It depends on individuals and is not a female condition like men have us believe.
loved loved loved the post 🙂
Thank you Monika 🙂
Father is so good hearted that he let it named after mothers.. 😛
Ahh I like that. So magnanimous of him 😛 Thank you Vivek.
Very true… I can think and write on a blog with no questions/ suggestions in between!
Thanks Athira 🙂
Excuse me. May I come inside? 🙂
I don’t know what men can do?
we want to give credit where it is due
but you gals take it amiss too
I can only concede and say what all you say is true.
What?? Taking permission?! Or were you worried I was holding a red brick?? 😛
We gals are glad you give credit where it is due. But not by quoting wrong reasons: ‘Fathers seldom get to use it’ eh??!!! 😛 🙂
One red brick I can manage, but it looked like there was a horde of you all with bricks. 🙂 😛
‘WHY do you think I blog?? No such calamity happens here. This is an Interruption-Free Zone.’ I am with you in this and I didn’t know it, until I saw it in your words!
I love this post of yours…every word in your list is true, Shail!
Thank you Sandhya. Wow there are more like me! 😉 🙂
It is also because kids were supposed to learn everything first from on the mother’s lap, if they were to grow into good human beings..but then in the modern times things have changed..for better or for good..history will decide.
Vivek, you sound serious. This is only a lighthearted response to the statement above which, yeah I admit, annoyed me. 😉 😛
I mean the least men can do is not belittle those who are doing their job and which job they are not inclined to do themselves anyways.
Actually I am not sure what your comment says. Are you suggesting that the new way of both parents getting involved in bringing up a child has its drawbacks??
oohh How I hate these married jokes depicting married men as poor tortured sad souls 😡
I second that. Especially when they sit around drinking and relaxing in the company of friends while the wife is busy with food and kids and the snack they ordered her to get them is delayed a few minutes and they say, “We poor men are at the mercy of our wives. We don’t even get things on time!” followed by a mock sigh with the rest of them gleefully agreeing and adding to it. Pah! A daily scene in so many houses!! 😛
Its called mother tongue because it was invented by a Mother. Lets look back shall we? Way back when we were hunters and gatherers.. Men went hunting, so had to keep quiet to lure the prey. Women had to gather the fruits and berries and roots and it was done quicker if all did it together.. how do you tell others you found them…Here comes language. Yep, Mother Invented it *giggling*
Yo Rashmi. I am sure it was invented by a mother and is continued to be used by her. But I dare anyone to tell me its because fathers don’t get to speak it. 😉 😛
Renjith P Sarada said:
Good one! Evolution of a good thought process!!
But, why am I seeing less response from any fathers here??
Renjith P Sarada
Thank you. Well, my readers (at least those who comment) are mostly women and a few men who understand my humor and me.
Renjith you can add your website url in the column assigned for it in the comment form rather than adding it to the body of the comment.
LOL!..so true..it was nice reading the reasons..:))
Welcome to Shail’s Nest Srivalli and thank you. 🙂
Does it reallllly hv to be so verrrrrrrrrrry sexist a view ?? Why divide this world so ??? I thinkssss…..It is called Mother Tongue zzzimbly because everything attached to a being frm birth to death belonged to the mother – except maybe his/her surname (which too in ur case i believe comes frm mathru dear). Umbilical cord, mother’s milk, motherland (except in nazi germany it was called fatherland ! !! hmmmph), mother’s love (the other way too) & even in some cases – mama’s boys ! ! So why not leave it at that ??????
Anyway nice posting…….made good reading and yes did open up ppl to thinking the WHY – a la ROCK ON !!!!!!!!!!
Of course it doesn’t have to be. And I am prepared to leave it the way it was. But not when morons come up with ‘because father never gets to speak it’ and such. Someone takes a swipe at me (women in general) I just might decide to take a swipe back. 😉
The surname rather the family name used to come from the mother in our case. And we don’t have any hang ups about men staying in their wife’s house like the rest of the nation. And parents stay with daughters too. No taboo about that either. We are emancipated that way. But sadly enough we too are moving backwards with the rest of the nation and with what speed!!
Thank you Aroop 🙂
Indian Homemaker said:
Why is it called mother tongue? I guess because traditionally it was mothers who taught the baby to speak. That’s why also, ‘the hand that rocks the cradle, can rock the world.’
About women bloggers… you made me think Shail!!!
I wish more of those hands that rocked the cradle would rock the world and bring it to its senses! 😉
Worth giving a thought to those women bloggers, isn’t it?? 🙂
Priya Iyer said:
Nice post!! Have always wondered about that too!! 🙂
On a more serious note, I feel the baby learns the language of the mother first. That’s why the mother tongue. Just guessing. 😀
Thanks Priya. 🙂 I have been checking on just why it is called so after writing this! 😉 As you know this reaction was to the above joke.
One explanation said : Because in Latin the word is “lingua”, which is feminine.
Another one says: In this case tongue means language. It is called mother tongue because it is the language spoken by the mother country in which you were born. In multilingual societies like Nigeria, Ghana and most African countries, mother tongue cannot refer to only the language spoken by the mother country. Mother tongue would mean the language the mother or caretaker passes on to the child. The assumption is that children grow under the eye of their mothers, hence mother tongue.
You can read it here: http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Why_is_%27mother_tongue%27_called_%27mother_tongue%27
Only in our mother land, where the holy cow is Mom to many, do we have a mother tongue :))
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