Sometime back a friend of mine said this of me, that I take enough time to mull things over, at least a minimum of six months he opined, and THEN, in his own words, “she comes out with something ‘telling’ about people or incidents which either makes it to her blog page or goes up as an update on Facebook.”
I admit I don’t know this young man any too well, have interacted with him even less, and yet there he was making an astute observation about me which even those who have known me long, or even those living in close proximity to me have been unable to catch. Yes, I do take my own sweet time, polish my thoughts, argue from both sides of any issue, try to poke holes in my own conclusions et al, and then, ONLY THEN do I vocalize it, or in this case put it on my blog or as a Facebook update..
Now, there are some who think otherwise, that I come out with my guns blazing as soon as they open their mouths (on what grounds?!), and that my “outbursts” are aimed at them (earlier question repeated). Don’t ask me on what basis anyone can claim that when they have said NOTHING original/unique, but only what has been going round and round since ages and on which I have as much right to make observations as anyone else without anyone taking umbrage.
The truth is I am not your shoot-your-mouth-at-the-drop-of-a-hat type of person and am certainly NOT interested in the personalities involved, the sole interest being the topic that has excited/excites my brain enough to dwell on it and throw up observations (witty or not), queries or plain tongue-in-cheek responses. So for those of you who read my utterances (or anyone else’s anywhere in the world who have views contrary/critical to yours) and take it as reacting to you personally, here is a #shailism (for more click here) I came up with:
If the shoe fits wear it by all means, but don’t flatter yourself that they have been made exclusively for you. There are millions of others with the same shoe size and the shoe manufacturers have all of them in mind while making and putting them up for sale.
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©Shail Mohan 2014
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Very well said. Not everything is about you. I wish people realized this. An update of mine had people messaging me asking if I was talking about them. Er, first of all, if I was, would I tell them? Secondly, if you feel guilty, then it’s probably true. 😉
Exactly my thoughts! 😀
There’s a reason we share a name 😉
Indeed! 😉
I loved the #Shailism quote 🙂
Glad that you do. 🙂
loved the dose of shailism .. 🙂
Thanks, SG 🙂
WTG gal 🙂 Love your shailisms 😀
Danke, Usha 😀
The shoe reflection is so true about life and I guess, there are various ways to look at the different ways of life. As far as your friend is concerned, I guess meeting someone a couple of times or observing on the online forum gives us an opportunity to make an objective judgement.
Opportunity being present is not enough. One must have the power of observation as well. 🙂
It’s true that a lot of us do take things personally! I’m guilty of it myself!! 😀
So the next time you can remind yourself of the shoe analogy 🙂 But yes, we do have a tendency to think it is all about us (in our eyes we are so important enough to warrant the attention). But pausing to think things over might help.
I have had numerous occasions of my updates coinciding with what others had to say and bang! the inevitable happened without fail: ‘how dare she write about me/what I said!’ This is precisely the reason I have removed myself from most groups. I owe no one any allegiance or loyalty (!!!) to not speak on topics they have been talking about. Bah, as if they own the topics of the world! 😉
Ha — I love that last part about if the shoe fits. The world needs deep thinkers; those who are circumspect and organize their thoughts before putting them into words.
Thank you, Mel. I love to listen to thinkers and what they have to say, because it gives me something more to think about.
Ah, Shail…..I’d written something on similar lines about the shoe and its fit. And I am taking the liberty to share it here with you. I know it will resonate.
http://blogwatig.com/2013/08/in-her-shoes/
Also, if only people knew shoes were just doing their job. How we feel in them is really our business, not the shoe’s. Liked this one….very Sunny Side Up! 😀
That was one colorful picture and an interesting post. Thank you for sharing the link, Vinita 🙂
Love your Shailisms 😀 😀
I am missing so much on your updates…need to take time to read them all – now that you’ve explained it all neatly 😛
Thanks, Uma. I know how busy you are! 🙂
I guess in situations like these, it’s easy to assume you’re being talked about or that you sense the way someone talks to you and take it personal w/o even knowing the intentions. Witnessed it first hand.
Yeah, it does happen 🙂
Like Cinderella I’d like to be
In the entire town, a shoe fit only she
Don’t want.to be stuck in a pod like a pea
To think like that makes me happy
For thoughts, aren’t they always free?
🙂
chuckles at the Shailism I have a lot to say about some things going on on the net too, but then I refrain from coming out wide in the open, ‘cos as you know, I am a confrontation avoider (sometimes I pay dearly for avoiding confrontation). I like those status messages on your TL which speak your mind, even if I do or do not agree (do not agree is very rare). Of course, your friends would understand that it is generic or take it sportingly even if they think it is aimed at them. Only the ones who fit this description -> ‘Aye, iske dil me khot hai’ – like Akshay Kumar says in Herapheri – would think it is specifically to belittle them.
I was a lot like you, confrontation-avoider. But I changed a lot over time. But there is still remnants of the old self left. 🙂
Too many who thought/think it is specific to them (which is the reason I wrote this post! 😉 )
The first 3 things – My Mom tells me the same about herself. Maybe I’ll become more like you in the coming years…
🙂
My God, i dread that moment. I have to put up with two of you? 😁
}:)
Eh, why did my comment go as a REPLY? Anyhow, the shoe reference reminded me of Cinderella too.