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I consider myself a facilitator par excellence. Facilitators, I have on good authority, are ‘those who help a group of people understand their common objectives and assists them to plan how to achieve these objectives.’ But when I use the word I only mean one who facilitates, who clears the way or opens the door so to speak.
The doors I speak of opening are not of buildings, but those of friendship. People enter my life as my friends and before I can say gobbledegook, they have become thick friends with other friends of mine. Not that that is a bad thing essentially. It is just that it has happened too many times for me to brush it aside as coincidence and in the process has given me something to ponder upon.
This is all extremely good, except that when friends become such good friends with each other they leave me by the wayside, all but forgotten. Don’t get me wrong. I have always been for introducing my friends to each other and will continue doing so. In fact, I watch with an indulgent eye and a glad heart when they interact among themselves. So, I am not complaining. Not at all.
As a loner by nature, an introvert to be precise (more on it another day), this far and no further is my motto. I bet the vibes I send out announce the fact clearly to those around for them to keep their distance from me. Hence, being a facilitator, though unknowingly, is only what facilitates me to be on the fringe looking in on great friendships being formed (akin to planets being formed) and maintained, and rejoice without restraint.
I think this should tell those who have been let into the metaphorical courtyard of my heart, sometimes only briefly, the honor that is theirs. You have been allowed to walk where no one ever has. I hope you value that.
And this is how it ends, this month of NaBloPoMo. 🙂
©Shail Mohan 2015
Deeps said:
Hmmm…that feeling of being left out can be a bummer, I can so understand.
Though I love the role of the facilitator in friendship that I too get to play at times. I have had many of my friends connect with each other through me, resulting in friendships extending to families too. Such experiences are such a joy to think back on 🙂
shail said:
Definitely not a bummer when I am the one sending out signals to people to stay away 😀 Like I wrote, this far and no further.
Deeps said:
Hahaha! Ah, that way 😀
dreamzandclouds said:
a job well done…congratulations on successful completion of NaBloPoMo 🙂
shail said:
Thank you! 😀
dreamzandclouds said:
🙂
Bikramjit said:
Friendship is beautiful. .and I am sure yiu know I value friendship a lot as till date all I have earned is the love and friendship of so many people. That’s all ingot to show..
And I am sure all those whom you have let enter your space fully kniw how great that is..
Take care mam …
shail said:
Thank you, Bikram 🙂
Gulshan said:
Yes, Shail, you have facilitated
For that, i am ingratiated
Your friends became mine
Worth more than a gold mine
And for yet another completion, you are felicitated!
shail said:
You too are felicitated, Gulshan. A whole month of limericks. You have done it yet again! 🙂
Gulshan said:
Thank you for giving me the opportunity
Which i grabbed with great alacrity
Brains were racked
Conundrums cracked
And each provided both of us plenty felicity!
shail said:
😀
Sheila M. Good, Author said:
Aww, the delicate dance of friendship. I have known many acquaintances in my life, but only one true friend. I believe people pass through our lives for a number of reasons, not the least to teach us, however unconsciously, something about ourselves. Thank you for sharing.
shail said:
I agree with you Sheila, that everyone teaches you something 🙂 One thing I have learnt is I am incapable of letting anyone too close 🙂
Sheila M. Good, Author said:
After my best friend died, my husband couldn’t understand why I just couldn’t go out and make new friends. It took me a long time to get him to understand, some people cross our paths only once. I too, have difficulty letting anyone else close.
J1289 said:
Shail,
It does stink to be out of the loop. I feel the one who facilitates and brings friends together should be valued and appreciated as that one person is bringing everyone together where they can enjoy each other’s company. I hope you, I and everyone else in this blog remain “virtual” friends, though I do admit sometimes it feels you are more of a second mom to me since I’m still young.
shail said:
I do think the value and appreciation is still there 🙂
Lol, yes, I do have friends younger than my own children 😉
Aturma said:
I could have written this post.. Seriously!
shail said:
Ahh.. someone like me? 🙂