Yippee. I have always wanted to make a hate-list. What better opportunity than now when the A to Z Challenge has thrown the alphabet H at me?! Oh by the way, this is not the sort of hate that is acidic in nature, simmers and boils inside, corroding walls and making you a hole-ridden being. It does nothing of the sort. I sure do hate the following, but I can be, nay I AM, dispassionate about them. So I will thank you in advance for not doling out advice. In case you want to know what I think of advice, you can go here.
So here goes, though frankly speaking there is no particular order to this:
1. People, whether guest or family, dillydallying when lunch/dinner is announced. I have never understood this Indian custom of having to coax and cajole guests to the table. The least people can do to show some respect and appreciation for the one who cooked the meal for you is to fall on the food with gusto. Whaddya know, in my circle I have a reputation of promptly heeding the host’s call without any fuss. I wish I had more guests like my own self.
2. Those people who sit at the table and wait expectantly TO BE SERVED. Awww, the babies. It seems their hands cannot yet do the simple function of extending themselves, taking hold of the serving spoon in the dish right in front of them, and filling their plates. Don’t you see, that requires so much of co-ordination and concentration which is beyond them. Men of course want the “wimmin” to do it for them and some “wimmin’ want other “wimmin” to.
3. It annoys me when family/guests keep staring at the television in a fascinated manner when I am asking if they want something more. The feeling at that moment is wanting to bang the dish down and walk out. I haven’t done it so far.
Well this is not just about guests and eating. So let’s move on to other things
4. People who cannot accept gracefully, be it a thanks, a compliment or a gift. Yeah, I know you are rich enough to buy anything you want, but you are poor in the acceptance department, aren’t you? Sad.
5. People who haven’t read relevant material yet will butt into the conversation with the most irrelevant and foolish observations. I do not gladly suffer the stupid, nor the intelligent who make a fool of themselves due to arrogance. Recently I had someone argue with me on a topic without having read a single word of what was written.
6. Those who turn get-together times to a ‘listen to me crib’ session. We all have our problems. How about putting them aside for the moment in times of celebrations when in a group?
7. People who corner me with what I should do with my time, my money, my things, even those things I am willing to give away for free. Oh no sir. I mustn’t give it away for free. You must take your broken WM to the man at the corner shop and get the best price possible. That the price will be cancelled out while hiring a vehicle to take it there does not enter such empty heads.
8. I hate liars. I can see through them. I just choose not to, and watch the fun instead. Recently I had the “good fortune” of hearing a blatant lie from a “friend” about someone else we both knew. I marveled at the fact that the “friend” was actually looking right into my eyes without wavering while saying it.
9. The dumbos on Facebook who share anything and everything without checking for its veracity. Some of them give the reason, ‘it could be true’. Yeah of course. drinking coriander juice day and night is going to magically turn you into an apsara. Give me a break. If you have stopped believing in Santa Claus why are you believing in such magical-cures-for-everything type of posts? Coriander has its place in the scheme of things, just like lime, onion, carrots, papaya leaves and the rest of it. How about erring on the side of caution and not being the agent of false propaganda? Actually it is good that I am on the net and not close enough to bop them one on their silly heads.
10. People who twist my words out of shape, color it with their own meaning and then cry foul. Really?! Grow up. There are a lot of things we cannot follow or fail to understand. My kind of jokes might be one of them. Just because you do not get it, don’t label it toxic. Besides, how about ASKING what I meant?!
11. The we-women and we-men jokes/conversations/proud statements. Really? On the one hand you talk about not stereotyping/generalizing and on the other you are we-women-ing and we-men-ing at the drop of a hat. How pathetic.
12. The back-scratch-ers who talk against back-scratching. Oh scratch this one. I don’t hate it. It is actually too funny for words and has me ROFL.
This list is by no means over. But for the moment I am putting a sock in it. May be I will bring out a Part 2 or something another time. So tell me, what makes it to your hate-list?
R's Mom said:
Clap clap clap I loved this list..and so so agree to it…except the FB one..because I am not on FB :):)
shail said:
🙂 🙂
Santulan said:
If you don’t share this in the next x minutes, then you won’t meet the love of your life/your mom will die/7 years of bad luck/ etc
nirvana said:
Hrishikesh, you’ll be next on her hate-list and hit list both..! 😛
shail said:
Yeah, yeah! 😀
shail said:
You brudder are so asking for a red-brick! 😛
Mysoul said:
That is on my hate list too Hrishikesh!
nirvana said:
Oh Freak! My topic for the day had been Hit list 😛 Lol… ROFL!
shail said:
Oh! Off to check 🙂
nirvana said:
Oh! Haven’t posted yet..!! Might post by the evening! Too rushed up nowadays..! 😦
nirvana said:
And next about the post – one word – Hilarious! Another word: Awesome! And yet another word: Apt!
Love the way you write…!
shail said:
Well, I am floored by your comment 😉 Thank you! 🙂
UmaS said:
That no 2 – oh yeah, agree on that totally ! Even now if my husband wants something, I just pass the dish to him, while my MIL tries to serve it for him. Thats the difference. Some mothers never let their sons/daughters be on their own !
No 3 – a BIG YES…I hate television being ON during meal time. Cricket and NEWS overtakes it sometimes. But I tell them to come to the table and take whatever they want.
No 4 – nodding head in agreement. This is absolute craziness. While we should be graceful enough to accept gifts or even a simple meal, some people don’t get it in them to be gracious to accept. It makes them a bigger person – which they fail to understand.
My hate-list :
– All those parents who think that teachers and schools are alone responsible for their children and who never take any responsibility for their wards, in all matters.
– Parents who give in to tantrums of their children.
nirvana said:
Somehow all MILs are the same.. 😛 They’re sweet but then the sweetest for their darling sons 😀 😛 ROFL
UmaS said:
So true…makes me feel irritated while the mother gloats with love for her son ! They dont understand this is not love – its dependency on them.
nirvana said:
Yes exactly. I mean it often feels that they’re the only ones who love their sons, only ones who can feed them properly, only ones who understand them and only ones who care about them! And then sons’ wives take a backseat…!
And what’s more? A wife, whether newly wed or one in her 50s, is failing to fulfill her defined duties and moral duties, if she doesn’t handle her husband a glass of water or doesn’t serve him home-cooked food on a day she’s tired!
Have observed this more than experiencing it..! Lol 😀 The list can indeed go on, Uma! What say!
shail said:
MILs are the pits when it comes to spoiling the sons, especially the past generation. If they could, they’d mash up the food and feed them rice-ball after rice ball. eye roll
Oh yes, I have written about parents who won’t say a word when children throw tantrums. i agree some of them abdicate responsibility and blame schools and teachers for everything!
Richa said:
Lol at the ‘Serve food to me’ part of it. I just make announcements of food is ready and everyone can serve themselves! I liked the rest of the list too. My hate list contains Mondays, Karelas and people who litter!
shail said:
I leave entertaining to the Lord and Master. I cook and he takes care of guests when they come. 🙂
Peopel who litter are Grrrr… But, you don’t like Karelas? :O Next time we are at a meal together, you can pass all the karelas to me 😉 Mondays are the days I love because I get to have everyone out of my hair after the weekend. 😛 But of course these days it is only the L & M 😉
Richa said:
:). I love the part of …getting everyone out of your hair..and the L&M 🙂
Ghata said:
Ha ha. I agree with most. Esp having to coax the guests to eat…it IS irritating. Looking forward to part 2 😉
shail said:
Hi 5 on that. This was fun. So yeah, I will have a Part 2, too 😉
afshan18 said:
Agree with most but what I hate most is people having “GREAT Expectations” from you where as they treat u with absolute indifference
These days all relatives are in my hate list. OK . I am sparing a few who don’t bother much about me and vice versa
Phone calls where I have to talk to all the leaves and branches of family tree. (Whom I never met and whose names I cant remember ) . I LOATHE THIS FACT and loathe it more as I have no way out
and the love-hate relationship with FB needs a diff post. 🙂
Great one on H shail
shail said:
Lol. I loved the ‘leaves and branches’ expression. 😛 Thankfully i don’t have to talk to any.
Thank you. Glad you liked the post 🙂
McGuffy Ann said:
Wow! You covered quite a bit here. Actually I did a post yesterday for a meme. We were to complete the sentence, “I am not…”. The hostess had ranted on her blog. She had good reason to. Please check out Rory Bore’s “Coffee Chat” from yesterday. Her blog is Time Out for Mom. Please also check out my post, “I Am Not…”., on McGuffy’s Reader. I think you will appreciate the topic and posts.
shail said:
I appreciate your post and the one you linked. Thanks for telling me about it 🙂
onehonestwriter said:
You have an awesome awesome sense of humor and what an witty writing style :), I loved this post specially the part about guests. Me too dislike cajoling and coaxing them, not only to come to the eating area – but ek le lijiye, ek toh lijiye, arey ek se kuch nahi hoga – that all is just not me, bhook lagi hai toh khao, varna chodo, I never force feed anyone. Just formally asks once :P.
shail said:
I hear you. I am the same 🙂 Thanks!
Wendy said:
At the top of my hate list are the people who leave their shopping cart in the middle of a good parking spot when there is a cart corral RIGHT THERE. Too darn lazy to walk 15 steps; now someone else is inconvenienced.
Next on the list are drivers who whip around me to take the right exit causing me to brake. Thanks ~ glad you got there when you did.
Visiting from A to Z ~
Wendy at Jollett Etc.
shail said:
Thank you for the comment, Wendy and welcome to Shail’s Nest. I can so empathize with the ones you have mentioned. It is far too common.
nabanita said:
I wish I had made a Hate List too after reading this…Some would have been common ! But I think mine would be longer…:D
Random Thoughts Naba
shail said:
Haha. Would love to read the longer list one day 🙂
Leo said:
I solemnly swear, if I am invited to your house for dinner, that I’ll eat dinner on time, help myself to more, talk with you rather than the tv and try to not turn our meeting into a debate session 🙂
shail said:
I solemnly thank you. Btw, I don’t mind debate sessions at all. My quest is to find answers, so arguments and debates are always welcome. But I have never found people who can debate without belittling or bringing the debate down to personalities. The closest I have found such people are a few who comment on IHM’s blog.
Leo said:
I don’t like debating o’er dinner 😉 Esp. over pappad 😛
shail said:
Oh, no, not over dinner. 🙂
Mysoul said:
Enjoyed this list, most of them are on mine too. 🙂
I recently came across the term “Learned Helplessness” I feel the ones who cant serve themselves, cant take their plates to the sink, fall in this category. On the opposite end, I hate the ones who stir and stir and stir the dish to figure out what’s in it before serving themselves…Really!!!! Just ask the Host why don’t you. And can you see there are others waiting to serve themselves after you?
I have the exclusive rule to not bring electronics to the table, or should we sit anywhere near viewable electronics, they are all turned off. I might go to the extent of pulling the battery or plug out(just piss me off and see 😉 ) I hate the time in restaurants that have a running TV all the time.
About stereotypical jokes, I might laugh(depends on what was said), not at what is said but for the punny/funny way the words were used in those kinds of jokes.
shail said:
Lol @ the stirring :)) Oh I HATE restaurants that have a TV running, too! I agree with your last point as well.
janakinagaraj said:
Agree on most points…now making my own list. 🙂
shail said:
That would be interesting to read 🙂
Vasudha Rao said:
Loved the satire ! Brilliant !
shail said:
Thank you, Vasudha 🙂
TraceyLynnTobin said:
I wrote a post like this once and had to cut myself off early because I was getting worked up. lol
In particular I totally 100% agree with #1 and #9. I regularly seethe in anger because even though I give him plenty of advanced warning that supper is almost ready, my husband will inevitably still be playing his video game and “trying to find a save point” while I’m trying to shove a plate of food in his face. As for the Facebook sharing trend, let’s just say that I’ve called out more than one person for sharing fake news (from websites who TELL YOU that they’re a fake news site) as though it were real. Read the damn article before you share and you’ll see that it’s obviously BS! lol
shail said:
Welcome to Shail’s Nest and thank you for your comment. 🙂 I tell you, FB dumbos take the cake. May be they are a special breed and so cannot see the obvious. eye roll
Found In Folsom said:
ohh I loved this post, Shail….I can agree to many things and more….i want to discuss each point but felt like I would end up in a bigger post comment 🙂 so, stopping it here and waiting for your second post. Not the guests..it’s my husband who has his laptop on and talk to the guests with his eyes on it…i get so maddd…..dont ask me what I feel like doing….grrrr
shail said:
Oh I can so relate to that grrr when people do not give you their full concentration while talking! I think we should all have our Hate-lists 😉
Pooja Abhay (@Pooja_Abhay) said:
Err, I guess you will hate me if and when we meet. I have quite a few number of qualities you have mentioned. But, otherwise, I am adorable. :’)
shail said:
I bet you are, adorable I mean. Yet I am curious to know which of the qualities you have 😉
dreamzandclouds said:
quite a few of them are common to my list 😛
shail said:
That calls for same pinch 😉
dreamzandclouds said:
😉
Nidaa said:
If only all hosts were like you… If I dont like something, host shouldnt force me na? I really hate it when food goes waste because of me.
like when people forcefully pile my plate ignoring my protests.
Oh and making fun of my dietary habits like avoiding maida & not putting sugar in fruit juice/milk ‘oh shes worried about diabetes’ and tittering. Grrr
shail said:
Oh, I hear you, loud and clear! I wish people would feed the hungry rather than force the food on those who do not want it.
Dyanne @ I Want Backsies said:
I love this list! My husband could have written #1. That’s one of his biggest pet peeves! #9 is the one I could have written. That makes me CRAZY. Look stuff up on snopes.com, people, and quit passing on bogus information!
shail said:
The #9 really puts me off. How stupid can anyone get?! By the way, welcome to Shail’s Nest and thank you for your comment 🙂
Rajlakshmi said:
I like it when people serve themselves rather than waiting on. Puts away so much of pressure. The most prominent in my hate list is when people ask is if I can make roti. I mean they know yet aaj roti nahi banayi!! Gets my mercury high . Marrying into a roti eating family had it’s downside. I can’t survive without rice. 😛
shail said:
True. It avoids wastage too if people serve themselves. Ahh you like rice 🙂
vishvanaathjee said:
Where is Narendra Modi in your list?
Or don’t you hate him?
Every blogger I read seems to hate him!
Regards
GV
shail said:
This is only a partial list 😉
Kristen said:
Perfect list! #8 and #7 are the #1 and #2 worst for me, respectively. I so can’t stand liars, and I really can’t stand being told what to do. Those two things drive me insane more than anything else.
Random Musings from the KristenHead — H is for Hearts and Handmade
shail said:
High 5 on that, Kristen! 🙂