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My post ‘In the land of Maha-abuse’ seems to have ruffled some feathers. Here is my cheeky humble attempt to smooth a couple of them. Sigh, it is rather a tough job I am taking on here.
Here is one of the comments:
“i don’t get what your complaining about. this is an isolated incident. it’s not like it happens every day. they just did what they did because they felt like doing it. they couldn’t control their testosterone. we guys have a hard time doing that”
1. I don’t get what your… oops sorry, you’re complaining about either. So that makes two of us. We are even. *high five*
2. The next time the roof falls on your head and you break a few of your vertebrae (Ahhh…. what a pleasant thought!) I hope you follow your own moronic excellent advice and not whine. After all it is just an isolated incident. It is not like roofs fall and people break their spinal cord every day.
3. Yippeeeeeeeee. You mean we all can do what we feel like, right? Sigh, I have always wanted to do what I feel like doing and that is jump on the faces (and other unnamed parts) of people who do what they feel like with total disregard to feelings of women, with hobnailed boots. Now that you have so kindly reminded me that that is the done thing, here is my chance at last.
4. Yup, I am aware, like many others, that there are guys who are wimps a breed apart and are so cowardly valiant that their testosterone levels shoot up ONLY when they see either a lone women who they can overpower singlehandedly or those they can hunt in packs so as to be there to save each other’s cowardly fearful fearless hide. Very sadly, their supposed uncontrollable libido deserts them and their testosterone levels magically hit rock bottom levels when they are in the presence of women or men who can (or will) beat them to a pulp. Mysterious how the bouncers at the bar, presence of guns etc can keep that testosterone levels and the useless bravado at such steadily low levels.
5.Yes, I do understand how easy hard it is for such guys as you to keep that control. Instead of resigning to “fate” with a ‘we guys are like that’ (my foot!) those of you guys who think they have raging (!) hormones and are entitled to molest girls should consult a doctor. Medical science has advanced considerably since the cave man days and treatment is widely available to cure delusions. BTW, the best cure is still our good old cold water baths. Or better still they should try jumping into the nearest well and save humanity all the trouble of feeding and housing them.
Now coming to the next comment;
“you need to watch your language ma’am. are you a mother? you sure don’t sound like one. It was the girl’s fault. She shouldn’t have been at the bar. No one should be drinking at bars period”
1. Fancy that. I admire your gall young man (really I do), having the audacity to suggest that I watch my language when you don’t even know a basic thing like capitalizing the first letter of a sentence! Tsk tsk tsk. In your place I wouldn’t have drawn attention to my language skills at all. But then, that’s me. If I may point out to you ever so hesitantly, since I am no English teacher myself, there IS a sea of difference between your and you’re. And ‘period’, surprising as it may seem to those like you who are so quick to point fingers, has a place of its own in the scheme of things in the phunny language that is called English. Period.
2. Yes, I am a mother though I don’t see how it is any bleddy concern of yours. And no, since I am satisfied with the two who call me so, no more applications are being entertained just in case you were wondering.
3. Ummm… let me see now. Mothers should sound like…. what? I have a suggestion for you since it looks like you have a ‘complaint’ about how they sound: Next time you see the creators, please put up the necessary papers with your preferences in mothers spelt out clearly, that mothers should come off assembly lines, replicas of each other down to their voices. Perhaps the higher-ups might take up your suggestion and have a factory set up exclusively for making mothers who are clones. As for me, let me tell you I am dead against the idea. Sheesh, just imagine what would happen if my mother called out: ‘Come here and get your breakfast’?!! The whole mohalla will walk right into my house and gobble up my breakfast!.
3. Errr…. WHY? Was she trespassing at the bar? Did the bar owner request you to keep her out of his bar? Or is it that you own the bar and she was there in spite of you denying her entrance?
4. Hmmm… so you feel no one should be drinking at the bar? Wah, commendable thought. Errr… are you doing anything to make your dream of a bar-free society come true? Have you written to the governments around the world expressing your wish and how it has to be implemented pronto? Have you confronted the companies making the hard liquor and requested them to toe your line? Have you met the owners of bars and threatened them to shut down or else face dire consequences? No bars means no people at bars. Simple, isn’t it? Perhaps you intend going on a hunger strike to realise that dream? Oooops sorry. My bad that I forgot you support the much easier and lily-livered act of way-laying girls who visit bars and molesting them on roads citing reasons of high(!) levels of testosterone.
Do you know something? I am sceptical about these tall claims of the levels of raging testosterone that supposedly makes molesters of men. My belief (and I am sure many agree) it is LACK of sufficient levels of testosterone that makes it so. The molesters and harassers are just trying to make a loud noise to cover up, take attention away from the harsh reality of what they themselves feel is missing in them. Whether anyone likes it or not, those who really have the necessary levels of this oh so widely acclaimed testosterone don’t need to force themselves on defenceless women or hunt them in packs to prove they are men. They know they are and so do the women who love and respect them.
Ash said:
Molesters are anti-social elements, criminals, psychopaths. Period. They need to be institutionalized, not condoned or excused – just like any other anti-social element, criminal or psychopath.
shail said:
I agree, Ash.
Amit said:
Wow! Who is this guy? Again Wow!
Well, this is what an average Indian thinks about such cases. This guy is actually justifying what happened. I am having dificulty lifting my jaw from the ground.
//they couldn’t control their testosterone. we guys have a hard time doing that//
Really? I do not remember having difficulty in controlling my testosterone. Last time I checked, I was in control of my body. And…ummm…if you can’t control it, there are better ways to let it out other than molesting a girl. Gosh! You really have to be a molester yourself to come up with this crappy line, believe me.
And, people can be at the pub. They can be pretty much anywhere they like as long as they are adults. Start respecting this fact.
shail said:
Isn’t this just the sort of comment you read on TOI? Indeed, this is how a lot of them think. Just the other day I was telling a friend. One needs a braincleanser, to remove all existing ideas and install new ones, like respect for women and the fact that they as adults can be wherever they like.
Vivek said:
I am dumbstruck at the first comment you have mentioned. Your reply is apt but polite. Of course he needs counseling if not outright hospitalization. “We guys have a hard time doing that” Wow! Wonder how his mother and sisters have survived his libido. Or have they?
shail said:
The second one seems milder after the first, right? But all the same it is equally bad. He is questioning the rights of someone.
I think more than half our population needs counselling because they think on similar lines and I don’t even mean just male population. This idea that men cannot control themselves have been sold to women and is faithfully passed down by each generation. 😦
ashreyamom said:
Wow.. What a give back.. these guys need to grow up..
He is designing a mother-code/conduct rules for mothers too.. why are these ppl so stereotype like Bharatiraja movies.. i like the way u replied Shail.. i hope to learn from you, how to stand up and replied their comment.. 🙂
shail said:
Yes, they have to grow up in the real sense and learn a few things.
Thanks. 🙂
Mia said:
The first comment. Seriously. Wow. I just cannot believe they still use that one. And it DOES happen EVERYDAY, except all those incident don’t get the media spotlight like this one got.
shail said:
True that it happens all the time and is no isolated incident at all. The man’s gall to suggest that it is! But then, what if it is isolated? Even then it deserves attention.
Btw, welcome to Shail’s Nest 🙂
Ruchira said:
Dear God this is unbelievable – so women cannot go to pubs and mothers should follow a certain decorum while writing and speaking.. but men ohh the poor souls they are not to be blamed .. they have such hard time controlling their testosterone ! I have been seeing such comments on a lot of blogs lately .. There was one idiot on Alka’s blog who said women have fantasies about getting raped.
I have a very strong suspicion that there is a group of guys out there who deliberately writing such comments …
shail said:
The TOI type commentators are spreading out. We are getting a taste of the “real” thoughts of the average Joe. I don’t understand how a society could end up inflating the egos of one half of its population based on an organ of theirs. Really!
dreemzzz said:
Why don’t these “potential molesters/ rapists” lock themselves in their house (& throw away the keys….) rather than making public places unsafe for woman by their very presence coz they Don’t have any Control on their libido….. !!!! SICK
shail said:
That’s another mystery: why people who admit they have no control over themselves are allowed to walk free in society. Seriously!
Btw, welcome to Shail’s Nest.
Bikramjit Singh Mann said:
HE he he he he he …
what do i say and I ma sure you can guess why I am laughing …
OH BOY mera bharat mahaan and the people living are even MAHAANER
shail said:
Ahh you find it funny eh? Yes, mahaan rajy hai, where we have such people having the guts to say ‘we men are like that, uncontrollable” and not being bashed up. 😦
Sally Adebayo said:
A South African woman invented something that looks like it could be an effective and appropriate deterrent…
Unfortunately, the onus is still on the woman, but my feeling is that a few rapists in hospital emergency rooms (if publicized) would have the effect of dampening some of that “uncontrollable” testosterone.
Aa's Mom said:
So very amazed that anyone could attempt to justify an incident like that in those terms! Seriously, I have no words….and, this is from a person who is educated enough to use a computer, read a blog and comment; what hope is there for people who are illiterate?!
shail said:
I know. How bad is the situation!
kirti said:
These senseless comments from (i am afraid they are either molesters on prowl or established molesters) the moronic guys are so outrageous . What are they thinking of themselves by trying to condone an act as shameful as molesting a girl ?
Shail , your reply is really very apt and fitting but I think it would be lost on their intelligence( in fact -lack of it). And if there is a group of guys who are deliberatly writing such comments , i must say they are not the ‘devil’s advocates’ but devils themselves.
shail said:
Right Kirti. If they had even a little intelligence, a little humanity left in them, they wouldn’t speak like this!
~nm said:
Why am I not surprised and shocked at this comment from a guy?
But I just love your responses! *Applauds*
shail said:
Thanks nm. I too am not suprised. I believe a lot of people exist in India, who think on similar lines.
Shilpa said:
Welcome back Shail. I hope you are feeling better.
How easy it is to find excuses, no? How difficult it is to take up some responsibility. Excellent response.
shail said:
Thanks Shilpa. Yes I am much better.
Yeah. If a person cannot take responsibility for their own body, then what is such a person worth?
Usha Pisharody said:
You said it gurl !!! I wish I had a pair of hobnailed boots to join you in wanting to do what you want to do, just as he does! The gall, the utter gall of whoeveritis!
I second Vivek T., on wondering how the womenfolk in his house survived his libido, if ever they did. Period. (Psst… your awesome 😛 )
shail said:
Lol @your awesome. 😉
And thanks for the offer to join. We must get those hobnailed boots asap. Need of the hour.
pixie said:
Brilliant replies!! There are men like this unfortunately!! One guy here too made such a comment and I chewed him out! unfortunately, I didnt get to hit him where it hurts!
Whoever said this is a stupid schmuck! and you are awesome to have found so much humour!!
I would have punched him first! 😛
shail said:
Thanks Pixie. This was a comment to my blog post from someone with an IP address in Canada. Of course he is a stupid schmuck. That’s an apt way of putting it.
Bhavia said:
He badly needed this one..awesome post
vadi koduthu adi vaangichappol,avanu samaadhamaayittundavum 😀
shail said:
Alla pinne. Avante oru testosterone polum! 🙂