Comments on: The FB and the SB http://shailsnest.com/wp/memoirs/the-fb-and-the-sb/ Where fingers tap dance... Thu, 11 Mar 2010 07:25:08 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: J P Joshi http://shailsnest.com/wp/memoirs/the-fb-and-the-sb/comment-page-1/#comment-2598 J P Joshi Tue, 11 Aug 2009 18:17:23 +0000 http://shailsnest.com/wp/?p=738#comment-2598 Enjoyed reading this brilliant description of FB and SB. Each child is different, and as your cousin said, “Chechi, how could you think you would get two of them in the same mold??” I have seen even twins being different. Imagine reading a bed time story to different twins, like your FB and SB - I think then the SB would read it out to the FB and matter would end - or would it???? Enjoyed your writing. <strong>Me: I agree! :) Even twins are different. I knew a set of twins who were good at different subjects. What subject one twin was good at the other was very poor in. Amazing. Their teacher was simply freaked out by this difference. Thank you! :)</strong> Enjoyed reading this brilliant description of FB and SB. Each child is different, and as your cousin said, “Chechi, how could you think you would get two of them in the same mold??” I have seen even twins being different. Imagine reading a bed time story to different twins, like your FB and SB – I think then the SB would read it out to the FB and matter would end – or would it???? Enjoyed your writing.

Me: I agree! :) Even twins are different. I knew a set of twins who were good at different subjects. What subject one twin was good at the other was very poor in. Amazing. Their teacher was simply freaked out by this difference.
Thank you! :)

]]> By: Vishakh http://shailsnest.com/wp/memoirs/the-fb-and-the-sb/comment-page-1/#comment-2580 Vishakh Sun, 09 Aug 2009 10:36:31 +0000 http://shailsnest.com/wp/?p=738#comment-2580 Hahaha. Finally read it. Nice one :D I didn't know about me wanting to select my own clothes until I read this. :D <strong>Me</strong> :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D <strong>Thank you!</strong> Hahaha. Finally read it. Nice one :D

I didn’t know about me wanting to select my own clothes until I read this. :D

Me :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D
Thank you!

]]> By: Usha http://shailsnest.com/wp/memoirs/the-fb-and-the-sb/comment-page-1/#comment-2536 Usha Sat, 01 Aug 2009 16:53:55 +0000 http://shailsnest.com/wp/?p=738#comment-2536 Well articulated... :) And all you FBs... Shail, Indy, Solilo... stop your fluttering right there... :P I'm an SB, a middle one of three, to boot, and I do believe that as a kid I was an ANGEL. After 10, a terror, I am told... I remember being the worst of the three as a teenager.. Lol! Loved this tag. And am waiting to do mine too... in a couple of days, hopefully! <strong>Me: Usha!! Oooops you a SB?? And an Angel turned Terror?? Lol, I can very well believe that!! :P ;) Hehehehe.. BTW am waiting to read your take!</strong> Well articulated… :)

And all you FBs… Shail, Indy, Solilo… stop your fluttering right there…
:P
I’m an SB, a middle one of three, to boot, and I do believe that as a kid I was an ANGEL. After 10, a terror, I am told… I remember being the worst of the three as a teenager.. Lol!

Loved this tag. And am waiting to do mine too… in a couple of days, hopefully!

Me: Usha!! Oooops you a SB?? And an Angel turned Terror?? Lol, I can very well believe that!! :P ;) Hehehehe.. BTW am waiting to read your take!

]]> By: Salil http://shailsnest.com/wp/memoirs/the-fb-and-the-sb/comment-page-1/#comment-2504 Salil Mon, 27 Jul 2009 01:16:21 +0000 http://shailsnest.com/wp/?p=738#comment-2504 Shail, Lol @ 'If you aren’t careful they wind you around their little finger and make you dance and not just the salsa but even some little known dance form of some tribe living in remote African jungles' I am a FB and a SB, since my parents were fed up raising one child. Though I am scientific and would refrain from forming any conclusions of my own, I think there is a clear behavioural difference between FBs and SBs (we are talking majorities here; there are always exceptions to any rule), with FBs being relatively more mature and SBs being relatively more vivacious. Cheers, Sal PS: Did I mention that the post was extremely well written as always? <strong>Me: <em>"I think there is a clear behavioural difference between FBs and SBs (we are talking majorities here; there are always exceptions to any rule), with FBs being relatively more mature and SBs being relatively more vivacious."</em> I think there is a clear behavioral difference between the two too (leaving out the exceptions of course) but it is not merely the influence of parenting which seems the popular notion. It goes much deeper than that is what I believe, starting from the time the child is in the womb. Of course a lot of parents give extra time for their FBs, some in a positive way, others in a negative way, either way the FBs get a lot of unwanted attention till the SBs are on the scene. And then the SBs get all the attention, mostly positive (but which has negative effects in the long run) .... and for the rest of their life they are thought of/treated as 'cute' 'helpless' 'younger' ones who know nothing. An example, the L & M who takes care of everything in our own home is treated as a kid, literally, in his own home by virtue of his being the younger one there. I consciously desisted from falling into this trap of treating the SB as a 'baby' (even when he was not a baby any longer) and the FB an 'adult' (even before he was one) and insisted on going by their ages. Thank you Salil! :)</strong> Shail,
Lol @ ‘If you aren’t careful they wind you around their little finger and make you dance and not just the salsa but even some little known dance form of some tribe living in remote African jungles’
I am a FB and a SB, since my parents were fed up raising one child.
Though I am scientific and would refrain from forming any conclusions of my own, I think there is a clear behavioural difference between FBs and SBs (we are talking majorities here; there are always exceptions to any rule), with FBs being relatively more mature and SBs being relatively more vivacious.
Cheers,
Sal
PS: Did I mention that the post was extremely well written as always?

Me: “I think there is a clear behavioural difference between FBs and SBs (we are talking majorities here; there are always exceptions to any rule), with FBs being relatively more mature and SBs being relatively more vivacious.”
I think there is a clear behavioral difference between the two too (leaving out the exceptions of course) but it is not merely the influence of parenting which seems the popular notion. It goes much deeper than that is what I believe, starting from the time the child is in the womb. Of course a lot of parents give extra time for their FBs, some in a positive way, others in a negative way, either way the FBs get a lot of unwanted attention till the SBs are on the scene. And then the SBs get all the attention, mostly positive (but which has negative effects in the long run) …. and for the rest of their life they are thought of/treated as ‘cute’ ‘helpless’ ‘younger’ ones who know nothing. An example, the L & M who takes care of everything in our own home is treated as a kid, literally, in his own home by virtue of his being the younger one there. I consciously desisted from falling into this trap of treating the SB as a ‘baby’ (even when he was not a baby any longer) and the FB an ‘adult’ (even before he was one) and insisted on going by their ages.
Thank you Salil! :)

]]> By: Govind http://shailsnest.com/wp/memoirs/the-fb-and-the-sb/comment-page-1/#comment-2445 Govind Thu, 16 Jul 2009 14:07:39 +0000 http://shailsnest.com/wp/?p=738#comment-2445 I am a first born.As you would have guessed by now. A real 'pavam'. With their first borns parents have all the time to pamper and be protective. By the time the second child comes, they are exhausted and tired of raising the first born and relax the 'rules'. Reason why the second borns are stronger and smarter.Plus they have a referral point in their brother to know things and learn the do's and don'ts. <strong>Me: I don't agree with the popular notion regarding why FBs nd SBs are the way they are, Govind. I have tried my best to use the same approach to SB and FB in my upbringing. But SB's individuality came in the way and I had to modify my approach, make it stronger, to teach the same lessons. Each child has a character the source of which is deeper than merely their parent's approach. Not all SBs are stronger or smarter and not all FBs are <em>kadinjool pottu</em> like they say in Mallu.</strong> I am a first born.As you would have guessed by now. A real ‘pavam’. With their first borns parents have all the time to pamper and be protective. By the time the second child comes, they are exhausted and tired of raising the first born and relax the ‘rules’. Reason why the second borns are stronger and smarter.Plus they have a referral point in their brother to know things and learn the do’s and don’ts.

Me: I don’t agree with the popular notion regarding why FBs nd SBs are the way they are, Govind. I have tried my best to use the same approach to SB and FB in my upbringing. But SB’s individuality came in the way and I had to modify my approach, make it stronger, to teach the same lessons. Each child has a character the source of which is deeper than merely their parent’s approach. Not all SBs are stronger or smarter and not all FBs are kadinjool pottu like they say in Mallu.

]]> By: Govind http://shailsnest.com/wp/memoirs/the-fb-and-the-sb/comment-page-1/#comment-2442 Govind Thu, 16 Jul 2009 12:44:44 +0000 http://shailsnest.com/wp/?p=738#comment-2442 First borns are poor souls always mild as the parents have time to have them styled and make them completely to their wishes complied the same can't be said about the second child. <strong> Me: :) </strong> First borns are poor souls always mild
as the parents have time to have them styled
and make them completely to their wishes complied
the same can’t be said about the second child.

Me: :)

]]> By: Pallavi http://shailsnest.com/wp/memoirs/the-fb-and-the-sb/comment-page-1/#comment-2434 Pallavi Wed, 15 Jul 2009 22:53:57 +0000 http://shailsnest.com/wp/?p=738#comment-2434 Delightful read!! LOL at FB not being Facebook and SB not being SBI :-) Very nice post, examining the polarities between siblings! Just that my FB is just like you SB, therefore, I am shit scared of having a SB, even if he/she is going to be like your FB! makes any sense?!!!! <strong>Me: Haha <em>@ Just that my FB is just like you SB, therefore, I am shit scared of having a SB</em> :P I got it Pal! :D</strong> Delightful read!! LOL at FB not being Facebook and SB not being SBI :-) Very nice post, examining the polarities between siblings! Just that my FB is just like you SB, therefore, I am shit scared of having a SB, even if he/she is going to be like your FB! makes any sense?!!!!

Me: Haha @ Just that my FB is just like you SB, therefore, I am shit scared of having a SB :P I got it Pal! :D

]]> By: Phoenixritu http://shailsnest.com/wp/memoirs/the-fb-and-the-sb/comment-page-1/#comment-2431 Phoenixritu Wed, 15 Jul 2009 09:47:20 +0000 http://shailsnest.com/wp/?p=738#comment-2431 LOL, yeah they are so similar yet so different arent they. I feel first borns are amenable superficially, and seconds are rebellious, but scratch the surface, they are the same. They do exactly as they want, both .... <strong>Me: Hmmm... I'd say they are different yet similar. :D And Ritu, I so understand the 'scratch the surface and they are the same' thing! :P</strong> LOL, yeah they are so similar yet so different arent they. I feel first borns are amenable superficially, and seconds are rebellious, but scratch the surface, they are the same. They do exactly as they want, both ….

Me: Hmmm… I’d say they are different yet similar. :D And Ritu, I so understand the ’scratch the surface and they are the same’ thing! :P

]]> By: Indyeah http://shailsnest.com/wp/memoirs/the-fb-and-the-sb/comment-page-1/#comment-2430 Indyeah Wed, 15 Jul 2009 09:28:55 +0000 http://shailsnest.com/wp/?p=738#comment-2430 uh Shail? Would it ..you know..like cancel out my first comment if I said that I was more like the way you have described your SB? :roll: I mean I was an angel but also a *devil* :mrgreen: <em>The FB was a curious child, with an extra inquisitive mind, argumentative, yet soft spoken </em> eh well..that would be a young SB morethan me..but.now an older ( and wiser) FB that is me :D <em>The SB ‘borrowed’ the FB’s toys, broke them, ordered him around imitating moi of course. </em> errmmm me again :mrgreen: But yeah I never troubled anyone..wsnt a brat I mean (only my unbiased opnion ofcourse :D) gimme food (ANY food)and I am yours for life was more the kind of kid that I was :D pssttt there were also rumours floating around that my parents didnt give me enough food...poor me :( <strong>Me: Hahaha Indy! You seem to have been quite a kid, devil and angel all rolled into one. And no food eh?? Poor poor you! :( ;) </strong> uh Shail?
Would it ..you know..like cancel out my first comment if I said that I was more like the way you have described your SB? :roll:

I mean I was an angel but also a *devil* :mrgreen:

The FB was a curious child, with an extra inquisitive mind, argumentative, yet soft spoken
eh well..that would be a young SB morethan me..but.now an older ( and wiser) FB that is me :D

The SB ‘borrowed’ the FB’s toys, broke them, ordered him around imitating moi of course.
errmmm me again :mrgreen:

But yeah I never troubled anyone..wsnt a brat I mean (only my unbiased opnion ofcourse :D )

gimme food (ANY food)and I am yours for life was more the kind of kid that I was :D

pssttt there were also rumours floating around that my parents didnt give me enough food…poor me :(

Me: Hahaha Indy! You seem to have been quite a kid, devil and angel all rolled into one. And no food eh?? Poor poor you! :( ;)

]]> By: Deeps http://shailsnest.com/wp/memoirs/the-fb-and-the-sb/comment-page-1/#comment-2428 Deeps Wed, 15 Jul 2009 08:04:50 +0000 http://shailsnest.com/wp/?p=738#comment-2428 I remember one of my friends said once you have FBs because you really are serious about having one and you are very careful and guarded with them but the SBs are normally had for fun! I was laughing hysterically when she said that! And then suddenly she realized she should rephrase and got into that justifying mode saying its not that SBs are not taken care of,its just that they have a referring point in the FBs. It was hilarious,Shail :D Let me mention,she has two adorable and very well brought up daughters :) <strong> Me: *Lols with Deeps* I differ in my view from the popular notion, Deeps. That may be the case in many households, about taking the SB for granted, using the FB as a reference point etc. I have not and yet there is a difference. The reason is not so simple as we think is my opinion on it.</strong> I remember one of my friends said once you have FBs because you really are serious about having one and you are very careful and guarded with them but the SBs are normally had for fun! I was laughing hysterically when she said that!

And then suddenly she realized she should rephrase and got into that justifying mode saying its not that SBs are not taken care of,its just that they have a referring point in the FBs. It was hilarious,Shail :D
Let me mention,she has two adorable and very well brought up daughters :)

Me: *Lols with Deeps*
I differ in my view from the popular notion, Deeps. That may be the case in many households, about taking the SB for granted, using the FB as a reference point etc. I have not and yet there is a difference. The reason is not so simple as we think is my opinion on it.

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