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By: The blue blip | Shail's Nest

The blue blip | Shail's Nest — Thu, 24 Jun 2010 21:25:33 +0000

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By: Chris

Chris — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 19:19:33 +0000

Happy Belated Birthday Shail. Hope you had a terrific one. Cheers

Me: Thanks so much Chris. So nice of you to drop in.

By: Indyeah

Indyeah — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 07:35:36 +0000

quoted your words somewhere today

(hugs))

Me: Where?? where?? *curious as a cat Shail*

By: Deeps

Deeps — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 12:08:13 +0000

sooooo sorry for coming here late….belated birthday wishes,shail

Me: Thanks Deeps! Glad you are here though I have been absconding from all around!!

By: Indyeah

Indyeah — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 05:05:25 +0000

oh wait!wait!
Ushus and IHM too make me think like this!

*one day I am going to get brain damage from all the thinking* but serisouly?
those lines I LOVED

Me: Yep, Usha and IHM rock!

By: Indyeah

Indyeah — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 05:01:27 +0000

typos galore

By: Indyeah

Indyeah — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 04:59:56 +0000

thank you!
coz yes that did make me think and I did take a lesson from it
((hugs)))
now tell me did I make a smart move or did I make a smart move when I decided to ’stalk’ you, Ushus,Solilo, IHM and Ritu? its for lessons likes these

They are after all our ‘perceptions’ which we have a right to hold and we are free to even air them. But at the back of our mind it is always good to remember that it is only our ‘perception’ and that that perception maybe the result of ‘conditioning’ consciously or unconsciously; and that conditioning exists in all of us to a lesser or greater extent. When one is aware of this…. then victory is ours. Why?? When we are aware we will never go to extremes… we are able more to laugh and good-naturedly so at things we find ‘funny’ rather than let them grate on our nerves which I think is a good thing.

uncanny how Solilo too made me think on the same lines on a different issue more on India and how we are as a nation

*pondering* ((hugs)))
thank you one again for this

Me: So you are stalking me eh, and you also call that a smart move. Lol. I am gratified by that response! I love reading all of those who you have mentioned! And you who are wise beyond your years too!!

By: Indyeah

Indyeah — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 21:23:00 +0000

loved the reply Shail and took a few lessons from it as well

sorry if that hurt you in any manner..

I was thinking more of Hindi movie stars when I wrote the comment here …..and yes of some people here in Delhi whom I know personally too…..

again it is true that even stars shouldnt be judged but thats how I honestly feel

I dont think I am personally affected if someone wears what they want to……

it has no bearing on my personal fortune..

when I see someone wearing clothes that he/she appears uncomfortable in and yet they persist in wearing them….I wish that they would be more comfy in their skin…….well again my personal opinion

how do I know its uncomfortable or how much they fidget and keep pulling down sleeves and pulling up necklines when they go down?

like you said its relative so what I have written is my perception..and its not the right perception OR the wrong one..or even the ONLY perception..
it simply is how I see them at times..

and yes to be honest I do cringe at times…

as for the 70 year old with purple hair?
whether I like her or not depends on her ‘attitude’ (again attitude as I see it which again might be wrong OR right)

is she wearing it coz she has the panache to carry it off and coz she is just like that?
crazily loony and absolutely delightful?

or maybe she doesnt not have the panache to carry it off but wants to try it nevertheless?

I think that absolutely fine too.(not that she is asking for my permission)

chances are that she is loony and delightful and cranky too
coz I do know someone who is adorable and just like this (except for the purple hair she has streaks of various colours)

so again my opinion differs from person to person…..when I speak of people who dress in a certain manner, its not a blanket statement or even a generalization..its a statement based on the few people I know….

and yes its relative

could I also know about the blog where the comment was made?

Me: Ahhh there Indy, I made you think! That’s what I was trying to do. Of course we cringe sometimes, at other times laugh openly or subtly at people and their ways, wonder whether they cannot have a better dress sense…. so many things. They are after all our ‘perceptions’ which we have a right to hold and we are free to even air them. But at the back of our mind it is always good to remember that it is only our ‘perception’ and that that perception maybe the result of ‘conditioning’ consciously or unconsciously; and that conditioning exists in all of us to a lesser or greater extent. When one is aware of this…. then victory is ours. Why?? When we are aware we will never go to extremes… we are able more to laugh and good-naturedly so at things we find ‘funny’ rather than let them grate on our nerves which I think is a good thing.
Well, that’s my philosophy.
And no, I am certainly not hurt. I welcome views as that gives me an opportunity to rearrange/review/correct/change/see more clearly my own views… and it makes me think which is very important for me. So, thank you .
The blog I read was at sulekha.com and I don’t even remember which one it was… I do read a lot and comment and this was almost more than a year back. Besides if I remember correctly, the blog was not dealing with this topic directly… but some of the comments took this direction. And I wrote the post about my views on that comment which set me thinking (and where I got the comment about the 80-year old man) at blogliterati.com where I mostly used to write questions that I had. I did not log in there for months together. Later on I found the page does not even exist.

By: Indyeah

Indyeah — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 06:29:35 +0000

Happy Birthday!!!
50 or not I think you were born this way

all bubbly and spirited and stuff
(((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))
the admiration grows stronger after reading this post

as for the dressing sense?
people can wear whatever they want…but sometimes some people..whether men or women..wear stuff that seems as if they are trying to hold on to something that’s long gone..its a desperate effort and it shows…one feels sorry for them…because they dont realise that age has nothing to do with the clothes one wears but more to do with how young a heart is…

come to Delhi and I will show you

Me: Thanks Indy for the hugs and wishes! For you I have a long reply. Kindly bear with me.

“….but sometimes some people..whether men or women..wear stuff that seems as if they are trying to hold on to something that’s long gone..its a desperate effort and it shows…one feels sorry for them..”

Well I have some points.
1. Couldn’t it be the outsider’s perception that these people are ‘trying to hold on to something??’ The outsider is after all are conditioned to view it as such.
2. Couldn’t it be that these people simply like to wear these type of clothes?? Maybe wearing such new types is their interest just like some people eat new dishes, watch new movies, go off to climb mountains or swim the seas etc. This could be the love of their life, their ‘adventure’
3. Is it a crime to try and hold on to something?? Is it a crime to be desperate when it comes to dressing, or even talking and walking in a way the rest of the society considers not appropriate?? (And you must understand the ‘accepted’ appropriateness changes, what is not today will be in a couple of months or years.)
4. Does it hurt anyone if these people try and hold on to something they think they want to??
5. Where do you draw the line?? How much can we hold on to and when and where should it end and most importantly WHY?? For example, do you feel a fifty year old woman wearing a salwar kameez is inappropriate dressing?? You probably won’t think so coz you have seen enough of them in that dress. But in my place I am one of the rarities. Not many in my age group do so and certainly not for formal functions like weddings. So for them I am inappropriately dressed and ‘desperately trying to hold on to something’
So isn’t all this just relative??

When you say desperately trying to hold on to something long gone, you are talking exactly of the point I am trying to say. What is long gone?? And why should it bother anyone that someone is trying to hold on to it?? You have a favorite book with yellowed pages, and you try every trick in the book to hold on to it and keep it intact. Is it any crime if a human does it to himself/herself if they so wish it?? Why is aging gracefully (who decides what’s graceful?? Someone described it and the rest of us believed it. Even what the word ‘graceful’ means changes with time) such a big deal?? Isn’t it for the one aging to decide how he/she wants to age?? Is it for others to take that decision??
Why are we so bothered with the way others behave, dress, talk…. if it doesn’t hurt us in any way?? there are things that should bother us, a simple one being people throwing trash on the road, not how they try and hold on to something however long gone, which according to me is none of anybody else’s business.

I have rambled a bit. I re-iterate, all this is strictly my personal opinion. As far as I am concerned if I see a seventy year old woman with purple hair, I would probably marvel at her spirit and admire her for her individuality.

By: Gulshan

Gulshan — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 17:23:07 +0000

Birthday wishes come your way
From friends near and far away
So Shail has turned fifty
Her words are ever nifty
Many blessing upon you for forever and a day!

PS: In Gujrati, there is an adage: ‘Khaavu-peevu man ne gamtu — pervu-odvu jag ne gamtu’. Roughly translated, eat and drink what you will, but dress and drape at others’ will.

Me: Ahh, it is sayings like these that are the weapons the know-it-alls use to keep the rest in line and that I hate so much.
Thanks for the wishes Gulshan, Queen of Limericks.