Comments on: Some thoughts on domestic violence

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Mon, 08 Mar 2010 07:27:00 +0000

[...] think its attitude. It’s also the way some of us react to injustice. It’s what Tearsndreams and Shail felt (and made us feel) when they saw Domestic [...]

By: Shail

Shail — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 05:06:27 +0000

Thank you Happy Kitten.

“. a woman who is sure of her rights has more chance of success to turn around a relationship or even get out..”

Yes that’s it. That’s why the up-bringing and awareness matters so much.

By: Happy Kitten

Happy Kitten — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 12:26:01 +0000

A great read.. and all the best to u..

I think if the woman herself thinks it is right for the man to abuse her then all is lost.. a woman who is sure of her rights has more chance of success to turn around a relationship or even get out..

One needs to educate the boys and the girls.. and now we have this topic being taught in the Indian school text books… this is a good start..

By: Shail

Shail — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 07:56:45 +0000

Well said. Sigh. I don’t know if I could have done that. Any way I am all for your way!

By: Shail

Shail — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 07:52:31 +0000

I totally agree about the boundary issue. Many times I have let known where that boundary is (in any equation) when it is being grazed. There are times in life when you are helpless too. But what really irritates me is those others who brand you as 'aggressive' just because you have drawn those boundaries to make matters clear. Domestic violence, eve teasing (I wrote one here: I Punched him!) child abuse are all issues that worry.

By: Shail

Shail — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 07:40:15 +0000

Thanks Basanta.

By: Shail

Shail — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 07:39:38 +0000

Thanks Ganga. And yes, this is a problem that is spread across the globe. I for one hope things will turn around! Sigh.

By: usha

usha — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 03:43:12 +0000

well said, Shail! I particularly liked the argument you had in mind, if it were ever to happen to you.

In any equation, be that between spouses, siblings, colleagues, friends, I believe there should be some kind of boundaries in place. And we should let know the people involved that we are totally not going to allow them even graze around the boundary.

Domestic Violence is some issue which worries me deeply, as much as the evil called Eve Teasing. I have blogged quite a few times about it. You can find it here>> http://ushadhanraj.blogspot.com/search/label/domestic%20violence

By: Basanta

Basanta — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 05:59:55 +0000

Great narration! I am late to read this. I fully support your opinion which you have put in this thought-provoking post.

And good luck with the entry!

By: Rashmi

Rashmi — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 17:26:55 +0000

“I will make sure you can never touch another woman as long as you live.” OMG I never thought of that though!

—The way I have figured, its a behavioural problem that no one other than the person can change, which means I wouldnt want another sister to go through what I did. So yes, I would try not to give the person an opportunity to abuse another.