“She looked down at her note book to take another look and huge drops of tears fell wetting the page and smudging what was written. She hastily wiped the tears off with the edge of her frock.” – have lost count of how many times that happened

Now, I try never to let that happen to my children.

Me: Welcome to my blog-space 2Bs mommy. That’ what we can do, never let it happen to our children.

Me: Thanks IHM. I have been too busy to make nominations myself as I was short of time to dig into posts by friends!

Me: Thanks Hitch

He became a high school dropout and has no interests in reading, learning, nothing beyond watching television. Yet I realize now that he had then and has now a “native” intelligence that we got in the way of him cultivating. And of course there seems to be no turning back the clock, so the damage seems permanent.

We changed our style with sons two and three. One got his Associate of Arts degree (two years in college) in architectural drafting and the youngest son is about to complete his basic requirements for an Associate of Arts degree in general studies, both while holding jobs. Neither of them wants to go on for a bachelor’s degree now, but both could if they decide to later.

And just tonight Chris was working with Jimi on some school work and he is such a smart four year old. And there was a time when our eldest son was as smart and full of potential as Jimi. And as first time parents we (mostly me; my wife was a trained teacher) muddled Jeff’s progress so that each year he cared less and less about school.

I feel tears in my heart for the girl in your writing and for my son. My regret cannot undo the damage I wrought on his self-esteem and potential love of learning and academic achivement thwarted.

Thanks for getting this nail right on the head, the absurdity of treating our children so tyrannically when they are just in many situations running into the equivalent of “mild speeding bumps” in the highway of learning.

I did not take to school right away, but eventually my parents communicated a love and enjoyment of learning that took root in my thick skull finally.

Excellent and superlative, tremendous and extremely well-written, in other words, results that you consistently achieve, Shail. Thank you for sharing and congrats on the well deserved award.

An admiring fan and friend,

Bob

Me: Thank you for the superlative words of appreciation Bob. It always comes in handy while attempting a new post!
What do I say about your comment?? You have told me about this before. Most parents falter at one time or other in the upbringing of their children. But we soon correct ourselves. But of course if the damage is high then undoing it is not easy… its’ impossible in some cases. A sad truth. But we can always try and make amends, whatever we can. My heart goes out to Jeff and also to you Bob… I know it hurts when you realise you could have done better.

ITs just awesome!

Me: Thank you so much Sakhi.

Excellent post. Discovered your blog on Blog Adda.
You have narrated it so well that it looks like if everything was happening before me only.

Learnt a lesson never ever loose my composure while teaching my kid. Kids are very-2 sensitive these days. They have lots of self respect and do not hesitate for a nao second even while taking any strong step.

Regards

Me: Thank you for stopping to leave a comment. Kids have always been sensitive, it is not just about these days. Sometimes it is better to leave the teaching to a thrid party if keeping composure is a problem and we as parents can do the finishing touches, the ‘garnishing’ of teaching.