Yeah, read it in Jan, when a friend posted the link at FB.
Now, men would agree with Ms Vaillant’s theory, won’t they?? I never thought otherwise! I don’t find anything surprising in that. My point is, WHAT THE HELL IS NEW ABOUT THIS?? After all, haven’t we been seeing the same thing packaged in different colored wrappers and presented to us in movies and literature since time immemorial?? Exactly WHAT is NEW about Ms Valliant’s research that it should even be called ‘research’??!!
Courage to accept??!! I like that. Isn’t that what women have been doing all this while?? What I’d like those boys rubbing their hands in glee is to show a little bit of that courage and accept with grace and the same very same enthusiasm that they now show, when they eventually discover that a coin has two bleddy sides to it Do you think they will be up to it?? I have my doubts!

Sadly most of my guy friends(no, not my brothers) on FB seem to agree with Ms Vaillant’s theory -quoting from one of their comments…Vaillant speaks absolute truth, a factual presentation, but few mortals have the courage to accept.

As expected the boys are rubbing their hands in glee.

Me: Anyone who reads me better be patient or they would never get through what I write! Yep, irritating rot does have that advantage!

Me: Rashmi, I agree, how about fairness??! I mean the researcher insinuates that man is naturally non-monogamous which implies that women are. And how the hell are the men going to acquire a stepney each without the women going against their ‘natural’ (according to the researcher of course) monogamous nature??!! So once again we are asked to against our ‘natural (according to the researcher) nature to please the men and then ALSO feel liberated about it?????!!!
Yeah Panchali and Dashali. Why not indeed??!!

Or maybe she is trying to find solace in a relationship where the husband is having an affair and she doesn’t want to leave him, this theory then becomes a very logical-sounding (!!???!!) self-excuse to cling to him.

I am sure she is proud of her husbands’ infidelity, which is a compliment to her, and shows how much he loves, respects, values and cherishes her.

Me: Now that is one way of looking at it! I guess she feels totally liberated!!
Hmmm… I wonder who so badly wanted to justify their affairs and funded this study and book??

Good luck with the indirank!

Me: Thanks Vinni. Glad you enjoyed it!!

Isn’t this something that the men here (East) have been taking as their right and the women asked to adjust to as their fate since ages??!

In India , its a part of general oppression of women.
But thats not the case in the west.
Also consider the fact that a “psychologist” is trying to justify it.Not some layman.

Read what she says….
“Once women accept that the “pact of fidelity is not natural but cultural”, and that infidelity is essential to the “psychic functioning” of certain men who are still very much in love, it can be a “very liberating” for women, she added.”

Complete rubbish. These people mix some pseudo-logic/pseudo-science and “over liberal” attitude and come up with bizarre conclusions that practically have no connection with reality.

Think about it. How can husband’s infidelity “be a “very liberating” for women”????

Cheers

Me: Well, thank you. Wasn’t this blog born because of just what she said??! Its just that I didn’t think it was necessary to point fingers at the West in this matter. Its not as if what the psychologist said is going to be taken as vedavakyam (from the holy scriptures) and followed by all and sundry. It IS being ridiculed by most all people. I find our own attitude of acceptance of such things in practice, worse than that. In real life and reel life we have parents asking daughters to accept the extramarital affairs of the men, as ‘men will be men’. We have men declaring their love for their wives even as they are having extramarital affairs or in spite of it. I find all this more disgusting and damaging as this is not just inside the covers of a book, but being practiced in real life!! My opinion of course.
Cheers.

A pathetic attempt by this “France’s most prominent female psychologist” to justify a shameful act.

Me: Welcome to my page Indian Pundit. Hmm… I wouldn’t go so far as to say that. Better clean our own backyard before pointing fingers. Why blame the West?? Just because someone ( a foreigner) spoke aloud trying to legitimize a fact that has been and is still going on here too?? Isn’t this something that the men here (East) have been taking as their right and the women asked to adjust to as their fate since ages??!! Is there such a lot of difference between the two??!!