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By: Advice (only for the girls) | Shail's Nest

Advice (only for the girls) | Shail's Nest — Wed, 29 Jun 2011 07:32:47 +0000

[...] the manner of Balan K Nair of old Mallu movies, roar ‘Kheri podi akathu’ (To know what it means click here). If that does not work, heat a rod and beat the shit out of them, then lock them up. Don’t give [...]

By: Slut Walk: Would women be in some ways empowered if they saw no shame in what they could risk being called? « The Life and Times of an Indian Homemaker

Mon, 27 Jun 2011 03:44:48 +0000

[...] just like this one for ‘triggering reactions they can’t control’. Such mindset makes the victim the culprit, little realizing that sexual crimes are not a result of sudden uncontrolled impulses, the rapists [...]

By: Fem

Fem — Sun, 17 Apr 2011 14:39:53 +0000

oooo! Beautiful! Came here from IHM as I liked most of your comments there. I was reading some of your posts, and you write beautifully, both on social matters and humorous stuff. A wonderful point made in only 55 words.

I have always been the one person who would have to drop other friends to their homes before going home myself when I was a teenager. For some reason, most mothers felt their daughters are safe with me. Why not simply make their daughters learn to be safe on their own?

By: Shail

Shail — Thu, 31 Mar 2011 04:00:12 +0000

@G Vishwanath,

To tell you the truth, it is not the boys who ogle who are at fault here, it is the society and the parents who with so much regularity send the signal loud and clear that when the boys ogle, it is the girl who is at fault. You must have observed too, how women of the household and the men shout at young girls if there are boys loitering anywhere near. WHAT is the fault of the girl in this?? Her gender?? Did she have a say in it?? Her existence?? Did she have a say in that??
Each one I feel, should examine their own selves and their conscience to find, just WHY a girl/woman is scolded for what boys/men do.

Thank you for the appreciation

By: G Vishwanath

G Vishwanath — Tue, 29 Mar 2011 06:33:33 +0000

One link leads to another.
Seeing Anita Menon’s comment on “Unclean” I visited that post and then landed here.

This is going to be never ending.
I had better stop!

Glad to know you got the award.
Yes, this story is so familiar.
I have been a boy and am familiar with this behaviour among those of us with more libido than is good for them and less maturity and education than is needed for them.

I was a shy fellow and would move away from girls.

But I knew boys who ogled and were proud of it.
As a hosteler, we had fellows who used to whistle in a special way to signal to fellow oglers when a pretty lass passed by the hostel.

Fortunately their disgusting behaviour stopped with ogling. They didn’t have the guts to go further.

The most satisfaying scene I remember was a resounding slap given to one ogler who over reached himself and in a moment of over confidence, passed a lewd comment. This girl had spunk which caught him by surprise. He didn’t have the sympathy of his friends and the warden threatened him with dismissal if he followed up with a complaint against the girl. He also congratulated the girl. The boy was licking his wounds for days after that experience.

But most girls suffer in silence in our cities.

What is it about humans? Male Animals don’t behave this way!

Great post
Regards
GV

By: A thank you post | Shail's Nest

A thank you post | Shail's Nest — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 06:21:39 +0000

[...] like to add that my 55-worder ‘Her Fault’ was runner up in the Avant Garde Bloggies Award. Thanks to all of you who nominated/voted and [...]

By: Shail

Shail — Mon, 05 Apr 2010 07:14:37 +0000

Thank you Gyanban

By: Shail

Shail — Mon, 05 Apr 2010 07:13:01 +0000

Welcome to Shail’s Nest Uma and thank you! Yes, still the story in many households.

By: Shail

Shail — Mon, 05 Apr 2010 07:11:39 +0000

Yes Swaram, so true.

By: Gyanban

Gyanban — Mon, 05 Apr 2010 06:51:53 +0000

Congrats for a very subtle but meaningful post.