Comments on: The Non-Workers??

By: Shail

Shail — Tue, 15 Mar 2011 03:34:35 +0000

@utopia,

Thank you *takes a bow* Where do you write?? Please let me know I’d like to read.
Yeah, I have never understood this definition of ‘work’ when it comes to homemakers. The maid also is said to ‘work’ when she does the dishes, washes clothes, cooks or sweeps. But when a homemaker does these things and more…… Surprise!! Surprise!! …it is no longer becomes ‘work’!! Strange, isn’t it??
One lady was so caustic in her comment when I posted this at sulekha.com. She said homemakers don’t do anything special, that the ‘working’ people do double the work. Lol, I agree she must be one hell of a ‘great’ person, being a ‘working’ woman and doing double the amount of work. But apparently her language skills are pretty poor since she seemed to have no clue about what this post is really about.

By: utopia

utopia — Mon, 14 Mar 2011 04:59:33 +0000

Shail, A standing ovation to you for this. Very well said. Me too face “Do you work ” or “Joli Kittiyo” (from those already who knew I wasnt working ) . They cannot imagine how i could have done my post graduation and not ‘work”.Like you said of course I work, the cleaning, cooking, washing…. tends to infinity)plus I write for the web in my extra time after the household chores. Initially I used to answer people I work as a freelancer, they dont get it, so I explain I write articles for the web and I do this from home, and then they give me this patronizing look.( because according to them sitting in an office from 9-5 is the only “real work”…

By: Shail

Shail — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 09:00:09 +0000

Hey Noor, glad to see you here! Lol, actually I really wonder what people mean by work. I onc told my husband that in the future it would be politically incorrect to ask anyone “Do you work??” of course he didn’t see my point or agree with me. But I certainly feel it is not proper to ask someone if they work. A homemaker may be doing less work or unpaid work compared to a career woman. But it is still WORK!

By: momofrs

momofrs — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 06:55:19 +0000

You hit the nail on the head Shail!!
House work is indeed a most thankless job (No wonder I run away from it to something that, well, pays )
And home-makers are the hardest workers. They work over-time, correction, they work ALL the time and they are taken for granted.
I think it takes a lot of courage and stamina to decide on being a home-maker.
Kudos to you (I seem to be saying that a lot, isn’t it ?! )

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To speak or not to speak | Shail's Nest — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 07:15:34 +0000

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By: Jen

Jen — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 13:19:32 +0000

You’re right, how people perceive “work” has changed considerably over time. For me, “work” turned out to be something I didn’t really like to do; something I was forced to do; something set in a banal grey office, between the hours of 9-5 (or longer), from monday to friday (or longer), doing the same set of tasks, attending.. meetings (I can barely type the word).

After the corporates tried to suck my soul, I came to my senses, quit my job and started my own venture called – funnily enough – “Nonworkers”(which is obviously how I stumbled across your article). Non-work meant the opposite of work as I knew it.

And I don’t miss “work” one bit. In fact, I *hope* to never have to go back. Obviously the experience is different for everyone, but could it be that these “workers” just wish they were you?

Jen, thanks for the comment. Well, I wonder about that too, if the workers wish they were me??!!

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“Do you work??” | Shail's Nest — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 05:10:41 +0000

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